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The Break-Up Diet
Welcome to The Break Up Diet—your weekly dose of self-improvement, glow-ups, and everything breakups (yes, not just the romantic ones). Hosted by Yasmin and Ilma, we’re your no-BS besties here to guide you through every type of breakup—whether it’s from a person, a toxic cycle, or even your old self.
We’re flipping the breakup narrative.
No more heartbreak—just transformation. No more setbacks—only glow-ups. Breakups are the ultimate opportunity to level up, and we’re here to help you do exactly that. Whether it's navigating friendships, situationships, or even kicking bad habits (we see you, vaping!), we’ve got the raw, real talk to help you rebuild and thrive.
Grab your seat, darlings—this is where the best version of YOU begins.
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The Break-Up Diet
Love Bombing Detox with Yaz and Ilmz
Can you imagine being swept off your feet by someone who seems perfect, only to realize their affection is just a mask for manipulation? We unravel the allure of love bombing and the murky waters of situationships, sharing personal tales that reveal the anxiety and uncertainty often lurking beneath. You'll learn to spot the signs of these toxic patterns and gain insights into maintaining your priorities and self-worth amidst romantic entanglements.
Struggling with anxious attachment or dealing with a partner who keeps you at arm's length? We explore the enigma of attachment styles—anxious, secure, and avoidant—and how they shape our relationships and emotional responses. Our candid conversations shine a light on the journey from seeking male validation to embracing therapy and personal growth. By understanding these dynamics, we empower you to cultivate healthier relationships and a more secure sense of self.
Ever felt drained by a relationship, losing your sense of identity and well-being? Our final discussion focuses on recognizing and escaping toxic relationships. With real-life experiences, we highlight the importance of intuition, recognizing red flags, and maintaining autonomy. We also dive into the transformative power of breakups, likening them to a detox that can lead to personal growth and empowerment. Whether you're navigating friendships or romantic connections, our stories and insights aim to help you prioritize your emotional health and self-care.
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What's going on? How have you been Good? How's your last week been? Just like really sporadic, like I'd be hibernating one day. The next minute I'm booking flights. You see someone that I'd be like no, tell us more. How much can I say? Because what if he sees this?
Ilmz:Say it you gotta, you gotta you gotta be. What if he's husband number two? Well then, he'll love this, that is true because we want a supportive man that not put you down ever and take you to the next level you know. So he should be like wow, honey, go get that yeah, that is true.
Ilmz:We want the next one to not be like toxic yeah, exactly, go on, go on he's this really like sexy guy from bleep okay, basically she's gone on a date with this really sexy man called buckle up bitches. It's gonna get bumpy. This is the breakup diet. You're somebody that falls hard and fast.
Yaz:Oh my god we're not putting that in. We are not putting that in because if he sees, I, he's gonna, he's gonna run no, we're putting it in speaking of falling hard and fast.
Yaz:I had a discussion with my therapist this morning so there's like three types of um attachment, okay, in relationships, right, so there's, tell me so. Anxious attachment is basically where you're like super clingy, you care so much about what they're doing, what they're thinking, whether they've, you know, replied to your texts, whether they've seen it, like you're on your phone constantly checking what they're up to, basically like insecure, crazy intense. And then you have to know everything kind of like basically very possessive, very overwhelming. Secure is what I would love to be, which is, you know, you're super calm, you don't. I mean, you obviously care about the person, but you don't let them kind of define your entire existence. And avoidant is when you're anything that has got to do with intimacy. You just run. And my therapist has diagnosed me with anxious attachment. Everyone's always one or what. You can be mixed with two, but that would be like really annoying.
Ilmz:You'd rather be the one what about if you're a little bit of all three?
Yaz:so that's secure, so that's when you're like you're comfortable, you're not, you know it doesn't take over your life.
Ilmz:I mean, I feel, what are you? I, I don't know are you anxious why did you just look at me and say that?
Yaz:how do you know? I just I'm looking for a sister. I was anxious. Again, tell me, anxious is like super insecure, very possessive. It just takes over your life. You're always on your phone checking to see where they are. No, not where they are, but like they've seen your message where they replied I where they replied you were before, so it does get better, no no, no, I mean like.
Ilmz:But when you first start dating someone, I think you want to know if they've seen your message or not, because you want to know if you're being pied.
Yaz:No or ghosted. That's a form of anxiety. I did say that to my therapist okay.
Ilmz:Well, maybe I'm anxious. Attachment wow we're in it together.
Yaz:Thank god, because everyone around me Are either secure or avoidant.
Ilmz:Secure would be A boss thing to have. But like, who is really secure? They're secure until they're not secure. I'll tell you that much.
Yaz:Do you think the most secure person would crumble In toxic relationships?
Ilmz:I think it'd be hard not to, even if you're secure. Yeah, I feel think it'd be hard not to, even if you're secure. Yeah, I feel like it'd be hard not to, because there's so many different toxic things that could happen to you. Out of the vast many of them, one of them would affect you. That's true, because no one has like no weak point, whether you're being verbally abused, you're being manipulated, put down or you're made to feel like you're walking on eggshells yeah, on that you can't tell them anything. The feeling of not feeling good enough, I reckon that would get you, were you ever secure and then pushed to not being secure.
Yaz:I think I've always been unsecure. What about you? It's weird, because I'd be insecure then. Like I'd get validation from a man and then I'd become secure, ick, and then they'd take it away from me and I'd get insecure again. Like that's crazy. Why is myself like esteem and confidence rooted in male validation?
Ilmz:no, that's so bad it's so bad that's so bad, but it's so true. So many people are like that. I probably like that too.
Yaz:I just haven't realized yet it's such an ick and I know it, but I'm not doing anything with that information.
Ilmz:I'm so simpy with men no, but you're, you're going to therapy. You just said therapy, so you're already, you're working on yourself. Most people aren't most people.
Yaz:Everybody should go to it so, yeah, everyone should go to therapy. If you're like, if you need to live off male validation, it does get addictive. It's like heroin, not that I've done it, but it's like the rush of male validation, yes. And then when it goes away, because like that's what toxic relationship is Like. In my previous relationship it was like intense love bombing, but it made sense because I'm like, oh no, of course he'd be in love with me. I'm like X, y, z, of course, and then Like duh, obviously he'd be in love with me. Exactly exactly, was he not?
Ilmz:No, that was a no um no that was a no you took too long to answer. You're like he has a really good personality. He had a good personality.
Yaz:Yeah, that's what everybody says when they're not hot or um, he's my type. Calling me out, yeah, calling me out, yeah. So intense love bombing for the first couple of months and then it just went away. And I mean when I went away, it just went away. And I mean, when it went away, it just went away and it just made me feel like I was having the worst come down of my life. Not that I know what it's like, because I'm a drug-free person.
Ilmz:But I don't know what that's like. And but I don't know what that's like either.
Yaz:Never done it. Okay, the validation, the just the lovey-dovey, euphoric feeling just completely went away and it made me feel like there was something wrong with me. What did I do to trigger him to like, not act like the way he used to when we first fell in love? Why is it not like the way it was when we were first together? Like what happened? Where's the romance? Where's the spark gone? Like what? What can I do?
Ilmz:what are some things of like love bombing, because I don't think I've ever actually been proper love have you not always get love bombed?
Yaz:every single like dating situation I've been in.
Ilmz:I always get love bombed, giving you loads of gifts and stuff, or is it more like it can be more subtle things?
Yaz:it's more like words and not action. I would love to accept gifts as a form of love bombing, but unfortunately you're like that, love bombing.
Ilmz:We like I want that I want that.
Yaz:Yes, yes, please. Should not be nice. Oh my god, of course, with the way the prices are going, love bombing is just words and it just makes you keep yearning for it. So you, they promise you to you, know you don't have to live by yourself.
Ilmz:Like I can help with rent, never do it wait, but did you ever follow up on it? Like I mean, it's a bit awkward to be like, oh you know how you said you'd help with rent, like transfer me but how I have never followed up when it comes to money, when, like men, no, it's awkward how far into the relationship would this happen? Second date oh no, ilma come on, you're stupid. No, no, like you can't be like thinking that somebody's going to pay your rent. Maybe not like just that.
Yaz:There's stuff, like you know, I see myself with you. You're like a forever person to me.
Ilmz:All of this on the second date. I can to be exclusive with you.
Yaz:Oh, I can see myself being exclusive with you like I'm deleting all my dating apps, all of this by the second date no, you're delulu why did you believe it? Because I look like the way I do.
Ilmz:It makes sense, it makes sense be in love with me, because I am a supermodel.
Yaz:She said it, not me. Why I think people also fall for love bonding is the chemistry. You have this amazing chemistry the first couple of dates you end up spending hours, not like two, three, four hours, I'm talking like 10 days, 24 hours. I kid you not, all my first dates have never not been less than 10 hours maybe you're a better time than me, because I definitely don't last that long.
Ilmz:Mine are like a solid first date is probably like. It depends if it's just dinner, though, but like if it's dinner, well, I'm obviously not a good time. Mine, mine, mine are only like maybe like four hours, which I feel like is a lot that is.
Yaz:But then what the?
Ilmz:hell do you talk about after like that with somebody new?
Yaz:you just keep talking and talking and then, like you know, they give you all this validation and I'm just like, oh my god, like I don't want to let you go, and it's like the same thing for him. It's like two like I don't know spiders, like weaving a web together so you're, basically you're telling me for 24 hours.
Ilmz:You just you sit there and you just hear ilva. You are amazing ilva, you are hot ilva, you are so smart and you're like yummy, yum, yum yes, I'm not the only one, because it's a term there's a term it's called.
Yaz:Therefore, I'm not the only one If there's a term for it. I'm not the only one that happens to.
Ilmz:You're a lucky like survivor. I envy you. You're not a love bombing victim. Maybe I just don't get love bombs. It's even worse. No, that's a good thing.
Yaz:No, they're like ah, you're not amazing Because you probably meet like super secure guys that don't feel the need to say xyz, to like wrap you in I see your point.
Ilmz:Oh, I am so jealous. Listen, if it's love bombing like that, I don't want it. If it's a love bombing like some gifts, we want it we want it.
Yaz:So have you been through anything toxic ever like in your dating life?
Ilmz:so it was never because it was never with a proper relationship or anything.
Yaz:It was always situationships, oh situation in itself is the most toxic thing ever. Can we ban?
Ilmz:it please. Also because I feel like you don't know where you stand really and you can be the cool girl, that's fine with it and like, going with the flow, disrupt the flow. No, I act like I'm like, oh, cool with it, going with the flow, we're just seeing how it's going. But secretly I'm like where is this going? You know anxious attachment, oh, sorry, anxious attachment. So I'm like, secretly, where is this going? Like, do you like me? Do you like me enough? Do you want see me as a girlfriend or do you not? And if you don't, why? You know?
Ilmz:that is such a mind flip yeah so I think like in those times I probably did go through toxic things, but it would be more, would you say you're walking on eggshells yeah, walking on eggshells, not feeling like good enough to be in a relationship with you.
Yaz:Feel like comfortable and vocalizing how you felt and what you wanted out of no, no, no, no, absolutely not.
Ilmz:When you're in a situation ship you are, because you are walking on eggshells, a bit like you don't want to say the wrong thing, that they don't like you, because you don't know. You don't know now if they like you or not really so then you don't want to say something that would disrupt that. What about you? Have you had anything toxic?
Yaz:I've 100 done stuff like that, where I just accommodate that person's needs. Have my entire entire day's schedule disrupted for a guy, yeah, yeah, it's like the worst thing I've done, like when I missed out on castings just because you know he couldn't meet me at X time but he couldn't meet me the other time when my casting is, so I'd miss out on my casting.
Ilmz:I feel like most people do that though, like at the start especially, which is so bad and you shouldn't. You should be your own priority. You should put yourself first, but then saying that like also I think at the start, like it's okay to miss one thing of yours that you want to if you really can't, but then it just becomes like the start of a very unhealthy cycle, because yeah, and that you're always doing everything and they're not compromising yeah, because obviously you think to yourself oh, it's just a one-time thing, like I'm only just getting to know him, like I'm having so much fun.
Yaz:It's hard. But then it just becomes more and more like, oh, I need to make sure I give him my time so he like wants to spend time with me.
Ilmz:You know, yeah, I get what you're saying. I feel like it's okay if I'm going back to it being okay. You're like no, no, no, I'm like oh, but but they the next time do one thing so that you can go to your thing. Sometimes he does something for you, sometimes you do something for him.
Yaz:Do you think people would want to compromise in like such early days, apart from the woman well, I feel like it depends on the timing, like everything depends on timing.
Ilmz:If a man wants to do it, he'll do it. If he doesn't, he won't.
Yaz:I stand by that, I'm looking for love in this generation. Yes, where are they? Where are they?
Ilmz:you just got to find a good one. I found a good one, so you got to find a good one.
Yaz:I found a good one, so you got to find a good one.
Ilmz:Okay, yes, so helpful. No, no, no. It took time. I didn't find a good one until I was 23. Not one good one, not one 23 years, nothing.
Yaz:I am pushing 30 and I still haven't found a good one.
Ilmz:Yeah, but you thought you found a good one.
Yaz:That's the love bombing. It gets you, it lands you into your first marriage?
Ilmz:no, but now you have exciting times ahead.
Yaz:I seeing your mystery man oh, how do we not circle back to him?
Ilmz:I'm so like I want to hear the tea, I'm excited like trying to be cool and mysterious for this guy.
Yaz:Oh my God, here I am trying to accommodate for this guy that I've only met once. Here I am compromising myself, being like oh, let me just be mysterious and cool, let me not talk about him.
Ilmz:Let's not. No, it's not a thing. You're jeopardizing yourself right now. You're hurting yourself. You're not hurting anybody else. You're not hurting him. That's true, because if I don't think he would care, I don't know who it is, I've never met him. I can't help you on this. If you'll ever meet him after this comes out. Nah, this will come out way later, when the love bombing phase is over, that's when it comes. Yeah, you're like surprise bitch. How'd you guys meet good or raya?
Yaz:fair, I feel like I've only dated just from raya any other app not to be like diva diva or like just being a bias against ugly people. But when I see like a stream of like ugly man on hinge, it just angers me. I thought that's your type.
Ilmz:Oh yes, no, Ilva, you're the one who said to me that you are like an ugly man yourself, so that's why you always go for ugly men.
Yaz:Oh, my God, this is killing me. You told me that. You told me that, okay, I know I said it, but You're taking it back. No, no, no, no, no. I'll embrace what I said because, yes, I do feel like I can be an ugly man sometimes, where I just go for any like thing ugly or not available With a pulse.
Ilmz:basically.
Yaz:Oh my God, I'm terrible. I'm getting better.
Ilmz:No, this is terrible marketing. We can't. We can't. Ilma, to be fair, your new man is hot. I can say it because I don't know him, but I've seen photos. She shows me lots of photos. I'm joking.
Yaz:Because it's like the biggest flex I have right now. I'm like, oh guys, like finally someone like kind of good looking and everyone agrees the validation I'm getting from like the gang amazing?
Ilmz:And has he given you any red red flags or thing that you can pull on that might seem a little toxic or nothing yet well, we're gonna find out four days okay, I'm sure the flags will just yeah, fair then you'll. You'll update us on the next episode. Oh, and I have a question for you to do with, like, the whole toxic relationship. How did you really know that this is not what I want? This is toxic.
Yaz:I have to leave it's not like a decision you make overnight, especially with like long-term relationships. It's not a decision you make just overnight. It took me, I think, about like six months of just really bad mental health, to the point it was affecting me physically, and that's when I realized oh, like I can't with a mental health.
Ilmz:like, can you? It was affecting me physically. And that's when I realized, oh, like I can't With the mental health, like, can you like explain that a?
Yaz:bit more Basically felt depressed from. You know, abuse, from just neglect to the point it like, affected me physically. I had such chronic fatigue to the point where I couldn't get up, I couldn't look after myself, I couldn't do basic tasks like't look after myself. I couldn't do basic tasks like my laundry or like the dishes, and there came a point where I honestly couldn't recognize who I was in the mirror, like that person was not me and it scared me.
Ilmz:One day you didn't feel good, and then you slowly got worse and worse and worse spirals and you lose yourself so quickly and it's toxic. What did you find the scariest part of actually making the?
Yaz:choice to walk away. Communicating my feelings has always been tough thing for me, so to do that oh my god, you look like you're gonna cry, sorry sorry, okay, it's okay. It's tough opening up and I think we live in such a society where it's hard for you to vocalize what you want, because it's either like oh, I'm asking for too much, am I the problem?
Ilmz:Yeah, there's a lot of blame game, especially when you're in something toxic. Yeah, you feel a lot of blame and shame. It's an ongoing cycle and guilt for feeling that way too, and especially with everybody else that looks like they have such a good time yeah, and you're just like, oh my god, like have I failed?
Yaz:like was I not loving enough, was I not?
Ilmz:caring enough. Did you feel respected in this relationship or in the other last one, when?
Yaz:a relationship gets toxic.
Ilmz:There's absolutely no element of respect from both parties yeah, I feel like you also lose respect yourself, for your partner too.
Yaz:So much, yeah, yeah, you lose respect for yourself, for your partner, both ways so what are like two major questions.
Ilmz:You'd ask yourself if this is the toxic one and you should leave. Is there anything that pops your head?
Yaz:spot immediate red flags and actually run, because it's not worth it and intuition. I'd add intuition because your your gut will tell you on that, but I feel like once you've gone through that one really bad relationship, I would hope for others because it has happened to me. If you see an inkling of a toxic trait from your past relationships with a current partner, you will run but also I have to kind of contradict that a little bit, like it depends on what it is.
Yaz:It's either, I think, like one way or the other, where you either mimic the cycle over and over again or you literally run away.
Ilmz:I think you have to remember that people do make mistakes too. I would just be scared that you would self-sabotage. You know what I mean, that's so true.
Yaz:Where's the fine line between like looking after yourself?
Ilmz:and self-sabotage do you find, now that you go into things, self-sabotaging?
Yaz:Yeah, I go in things with a lot of cautious caution, I mean yeah.
Ilmz:Caution.
Yaz:Yeah, I go into new relationships with a lot of caution, which is why I'm struggling to talk about anyone with you.
Ilmz:Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Yaz:You know, if I'm doing too much, be a lot. Yeah, I get you. This thing is like it's not a forever thing, like let's just not make it a thing.
Ilmz:But right there you're saying like it's maybe not a forever thing, let's not make it a thing that is self-sabotaging it already sorry, it's not forever thing, though, you know, you just know no, I don't know. You're gonna wait and see. Don't already put bad energy around stuff.
Yaz:That's true. That is true. I take that back. I take that back, that's true, that is true.
Ilmz:I take that back. I take that back Like that's you, that, that is you doubting yourself.
Yaz:Oh, that's terrible. Okay, no, I shouldn't do that.
Ilmz:And if you went into a relationship now and they were trying to tell you what to wear or trying to make little things?
Yaz:run, run, run. I don't have time, I do not have time.
Ilmz:What if you really like them?
Yaz:Oh, that will not make me like them.
Ilmz:Yeah, I get you, I'm the same, but.
Yaz:It's like something like that will make me run Any element of control.
Ilmz:I am out. But what about if they do it in a way of manipulation, so you don't even realise? See, that is hard, because that I wouldn't even notice. Yeah, literally that's how they get you. It's like love bombing 2.0. It's like the sister, the evil sister.
Ilmz:Three red flags of mine would be if they talk bad to the waiter yeah, disgusting disgusting if they talk bad about their ex-girlfriends like you know not, not, there's a level like she's annoying, she's crazy. Okay, maybe fine, but if they're like in detail about their relationship and like saying bad things about it, then that's a red flag. But then also I don't want them to be like super like low-key in love, yeah, you know.
Ilmz:So. Number three is to like love on me. I guess what you're saying like as in, take me somewhere really expensive and then take me somewhere after, or something. Yeah, not that that's happened to me, but that would be a red flag. Yeah, absolutely. Or like when you go out and they just like know everybody out.
Yaz:I find that a red flag oh, that's like community dick right there yeah, community dick.
Ilmz:Yeah, are we allowed to say that? I love that? That's what it's given? Yeah, no one wants a community dick oh, my top three red flags.
Yaz:On the first date, I think it's such an ick, and also concerning when they talk about their wealth, because that to me means like you're broke, because if you were actually rich you wouldn't feel the need to talk about it. If your money's shouting boy, I'm out because I know you're going to be asking me to split the bill at some point not that there's anything wrong with that so would you split the? Bill on the first date?
Ilmz:probably not yeah, no, not on the first day again, like I have on the first date when I like, actually really like the person don't no boys listen to this, because that's not what the ideal woman wants flipping simp no, no girl wants this, don't listen to it. Next, next, next one, next red flag. You don't have any red flags because you're like, oh, let's go.
Yaz:I see red and I'm like, oh love.
Ilmz:Would it be a red flag for you if your partner still was on the dating app, so they can check in and look?
Yaz:Depends on how long we've been together and if I've deleted it. So if she's still in the game, if I haven't deleted it, then I don't really care what he does. As long as I don't really care what he does, as long as I don't know about it, there's nothing worse than being cheated on and everyone knows about it. Have you ever had that happen? Oh yeah, it's so embarrassing. It's so embarrassing. I found out by looking at his phone, because his text kept on being blown up by this girl.
Ilmz:Wait, wait, wait, wait, slow down, tell me how you found out. So you're sat on the couch, or I need details.
Yaz:So basically on the couch or I need, I need details. So basically we were asleep and he had his ringer on really loud, his sound on really loud, because he wanted to make sure he doesn't miss his alarm first flight you use face id.
Ilmz:That's iconic.
Yaz:You're like have good dreams yeah, and I see like texts from this girl like stop making promises you can't keep. But I'm like I beg your pardon, grow up and scroll up, shut up. He'd be like oh, you were such a great kisser that night. Yeah, yeah, shut up. Yeah, feral, completely feral.
Ilmz:So then, what did you do? This is so scandalous? Obviously, I woke him up, being like WTF is this?
Yaz:Yeah, I went ballistic.
Ilmz:Did you find out about any others or was this the only one you knew? No, not a lot. Your friends knew about it, or?
Yaz:who knew about it? My friends knew of the person, but they never knew about you know. Oh, so they knew the girl, but they didn't know, yeah, so like when I told them they were like what word kind of spreads?
Ilmz:because the girl would talk about, like you know, her time with my boyfriend and did she know about you end up speaking to her or anything, or you actually did. Yeah, what happened? Are you friends? No, no, okay, okay, didn't go that level.
Yaz:No, no, no. And then she sent me screenshots of their chat and stuff. She worked for a women's charity and he'd be like, oh my God, that's so noble. The men are really trash, all while he's cheating on them. That's so disgusting, yeah, ew, he's saying that men are trash, while being the trashiest man there is.
Ilmz:Sorry, but he's kind of smart. No one would expect that I hate him. I don't get you, he's so bad scumbag, but he's kind of smart. That's how they get you being like oh, you're so noble, like there's such a feminist all this la, la, la, and then bang. I'm a feminist too.
Yaz:I would do that. I hope my daughter's like you then bang yes, like I want to like raise my sons to be feminist that was on the chat as well.
Ilmz:Ew, that's so icky. And then what happened? You just like in the middle of the night you woke him up, was like get out, or what we still stuck it out for like two weeks.
Yaz:It was was my first relationship. I was very determined to, like you know, make it work, because everyone around me was in a relationship and you know I just didn't want to be the first one to be single till.
Ilmz:I quit it. You were scared to be single just because everybody else was in one. Yeah, 100%.
Yaz:It's scary being single when you're the only person in your friend group, really, but once you did it, I bet you realize it's not that scary. Oh yeah yeah. And now it's so fine. Now I am comfortable with being single, which is such a like win for me. But back then, my god, the insecurity of like not having a boyfriend and feeling like I'm a failure because I don't have a boyfriend yeah, what is that about, you know?
Ilmz:you know, I kind of get that because we date people for like a long period of time and stuff. I never fully had a boyfriend. Yeah, it does play with your head because then you're like, why does everybody else? But when I looked at it back then as well, I thought I would never date any of my friends boyfriends anyway. Yeah, not even because of like looks or anything, not even going off that just by like the annoyance that I heard. Sorry, girls.
Yaz:I've never like. I mean, I have heard good stories about my friends, boyfriends just define them by the bad stories. I just want to jump on all of them yeah, I get what you're saying.
Ilmz:I get what you're saying, but then I'm not like the cool friend that's like friends with my like friends boyfriend.
Yaz:I'm like, oh, you're my arch nemesis.
Ilmz:I think I'm friendly, but I don't think I'm ever best friends of them, but I'm definitely friendly I'll be polite for the sake of my friend, but that, that man's my arch nemesis.
Yaz:Sorry, no, but my friend, if you're my best friend's boyfriend, oh, I hate you. You have such a weird dynamic, the wedding when they're like, oh, we get to marry our best friends like no you don't, I'm here you're like bitch, I'm the best friend.
Ilmz:That's right. Know your place.
Yaz:It's me, it was me first and it will always be me, yeah would you not rather be single than to still be in this crap, toxic situation?
Ilmz:when you're in the situation even though you think you might have some form of love you're so stressed out, compromising yourself so much you look like actual shit because you're so run down. And then when you have the breakup, you have this, so you have a detox, and then you literally look like the baddest bitch of them all.
Yaz:Right and is that not the most motivating thing ever?
Ilmz:now I don't know why I'm giving this analogy, but okay, so this is the breakup diet toolkit, right, I wish I could not have the breakup, because I have a very nice boyfriend now, but just take all the tools from in it so that I have that massive glow up. You feel your best, you know. Yeah, for a feeling of getting your shit together to get that detox. Yeah, that cleanse.
Ilmz:Yeah, that's part of the diet I totally get you I wish you could have that almost reset without actually having to have that traumatic breakup exactly.
Yaz:Why do we need to go through all this toxicity to have this amazing?
Ilmz:glow up literally on the the plus side. It does get better, it does get better, and then you can be single out on the streets going to with Savoy and I'm just living through it. I'm living through it. Thanks, guys.
