The Break-Up Diet

RIP Hot Girl Hibernation: It’s Spring Cleaning Season

• Yasmin Misner and Ilma Shahrene • Season 1 • Episode 29

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The days are getting longer, flowers are blooming, and it's finally time to shed that winter coat of emotional baggage. Welcome to your spring awakening after heartbreak!

Ever notice how winter breakups hit differently? There's something about those dark, cold months that amplifies every painful emotion. As Ilma candidly shares from her own experience, "When I had my winter breakup, I actually thought I was going to die." The combination of Seasonal Affective Disorder and heartbreak creates a particularly potent emotional cocktail that can feel impossible to overcome.

But spring—glorious spring—brings a natural energy shift that makes taking control of your life not just possible, but exciting. It's the perfect season for reclaiming your space (both physically and emotionally), implementing boundaries, and finally acting on those self-improvement goals that hibernated alongside you all winter.

We dive deep into practical strategies for post-breakup renewal: transforming your living space to be unapologetically yours (goodbye, beard trimmings in the sink!), saging away negative energy with friends, limiting social media doom-scrolling, and adopting positive journaling practices that rewire your brain toward gratitude. Ilma shares her powerful approach: "I only choose to write positive things because your brain will then only remember positive stuff."

Throughout our conversation, we acknowledge the reality that healing isn't linear. Some days you'll feel on top of the world; others you might find yourself analyzing everything and feeling overwhelmed. That's perfectly normal—and knowing that tomorrow brings new possibilities is part of embracing this season of renewal.

So what baggage are you leaving behind this spring? What fresh start are you creating? Listen now to discover how to transform your breakup into a breakthrough, just as winter transforms into spring.

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Ilmz:

Welcome back to another episode of the Breakup Diet. Hot girl, hibernation is over, we are in spring.

Yaz:

yes, how are you feeling? I know I feel like spring. I have some mixed emotions, especially today. I'm like I haven't quite let go of winter. I feel, you know, but I need to. You know it's spring, summer. You've got to be looking hot in summer, so it's go time, baby. That's basically what it is Go time.

Ilmz:

Like hot girl hibernation's over guys, like we're not rotting anymore. We're not bed rotting, we're actually just doing a bit of spring cleaning.

Yaz:

Buckle up bitches, it's going to get cleaning. Buckle up bitches, it's gonna get bumpy. This is the breakup diet.

Ilmz:

What's everyone's thoughts on our photo shoot? Are people liking it? Yeah, it's pretty iconic, like it was such a cool concept that you thought of honestly, like spring actually is that time of the year when I think you can actually finally act on your new year's eve resolutions, like the weather's better, you've got longer hours, you've got more energy, as opposed to winter, where you're like, oh my god, like I'm supposed to be doing all this stuff, but I'm tired, everyone's tired.

Yaz:

I actually really like spring, like it's probably my favorite almost over summer. Summer's a bit stressful, I find, actually, and a bit there's too much happening. Everyone's away, everything's going on, everyone's everywhere, you know. But spring you're like changing. You know what I mean every the, the.

Ilmz:

The flowers are blooming, the leaves are turning um and the days are nicer.

Yaz:

The clocks went back as well, the clocks went back, so our first 8 pm sunset, yeah, which is so nice. It's so much nicer. Which is?

Yaz:

why I'm like, yes, we should go have a drink, yeah literally, but I feel like with a breakup, it's actually the perfect time to have one a winter breakup is the worst breakup of them all yeah, winter is actually just depressing because you want to be at home and you want to be cuddling and you don't want to go outside, whereas like spring is kind of like you can just get hot before summer 100, like with spring, you're like oh, it's summer's just around the corner, the weather's fine.

Ilmz:

I actually think you were holding me back. As opposed to winter, the weather amplifies your emotions. That's personally for me. I get a really bad case of SAD and when I had my winter breakup I actually thought I was gonna die, like I'm not even being serious. It's really hard, like the therapy I needed.

Ilmz:

And then, like she also kind of knew like babe, like it could be because of the weather, like it's just sucks that you can't get out and take control of your life, as opposed to spring, like we're saying bye-bye to the bullshit. We're like deep cleaning, like the shit from the past, like I think we're actually like cleansing from last year.

Yaz:

To be honest, in the spring cleaning you're letting go of, like the emotional baggage you know, because even if you went through a breakup in like the winter, you're probably still like you're just coping, you know, to get through the dark times, the dark weather, the dark times, all this, and now you might still have some leftover emotional baggage that you need to boot it out.

Ilmz:

I think by by the time it's spring, you're like whoa. I've like survived a really hard winter. I think it's time to regain control of my life. So what are you doing to spring clean?

Yaz:

To spring clean my mind. I actually am going to start therapy, I think, because I sometimes want to like I get a lot, I get very overwhelmed in like every department of my life. So like I feel like they might be able to help me not get very overwhelmed in every department of my life. So I feel like they might be able to help me not get so overwhelmed, because you know, when you're similar to a breakup, like when you have an extreme emotion, and then the next day you're fine and I'm like what the actual hell is wrong with me? Why am I crying today? That's why I look like this, and then tomorrow I'm going to be fine.

Ilmz:

It's just how emotions are. I think you kind of need to remind yourself that emotions are temporary. You're not meant to be happy 24-7. Equally, you're not meant to be angry 24-7. It's just one of those things in life where you're going to have to experience some high-high and some low lows, and then with therapy, you're gonna learn how to like reduce the high so that it's not compensated by a really bad low.

Yaz:

You'll be just living life in equilibrium you see, I haven't had a really bad low in a long time, like really really bad before I used to get really bad. Now I don't have that, which I don't know why.

Ilmz:

But I just have a thing. I think you're just growing up yeah because there's a lot of pressure when you're younger. Like the lowest of the lows, feel a lot worse when you're younger. Okay, that's good to know, yeah it only gets better.

Yaz:

Yes, and it's. You know, it is soon what spring cleaning, but also ilma's 30th birthday, the dirty 30 is here.

Ilmz:

Goodbye to my 20s. 20s were the best. I've learned so much. How cool is it to say that I got married and divorced in my 20s? I'm sorry. And the fact that I survived, you know, and the fact that I'm like now spreading so much like positivity now through this platform, I can't wait to see what 30s is gonna be like for me yeah, I think that is just where it's at I think so too, like I feel like most people become, they're like not even their prime. They really like grow in their 30s.

Yaz:

I think it's just like I'm obviously not in my 30s, but like I think you know who you are. Whenever I've spoken to somebody about it, they say you're really sure of yourself because, you've kind of like had all those different phases, yeah, yeah, and you kind of, yeah, you know what you want, you know who you are as a person and you're not afraid to have boundaries, because boundaries was a big thing that I struggled.

Ilmz:

Well, not anymore, but like I struggled with in my 20s, because you kind of care too much about what if you're like, taking too much space when really it's not the case yeah, is there any?

Yaz:

is there any spring cleaning? You're gonna do this spring like. Are you breaking up with any bad habit? Are you breaking up with any situations yet breaking up with any friend?

Ilmz:

I am spring cleaning my routine. To be honest, my routine at the moment is quite messed up, my sleeping pattern's quite bad. Um, you don't sleep, I sleep, but the quality is not good. So I sleep from like 10 to 2, then I wake up, then wake from 2 to 4, 4 to 7, I'm asleep. So it's just like that. Yeah, yeah. So I feel very loopy, which is probably why, like in all these episodes, I'm a lot more delirious than I am in person.

Yaz:

Fair, fair. It's actually quite funny. We're rolling, we're like super chatty, and then when we stop rolling, like we did a photo shoot the other day and we were like so out there, out there, and then as soon as we got in the car we had like half an hour before we had to film again.

Ilmz:

Ilma and I, just in silence, not speaking, like, like we were like led to the other side of the windows, just like passed out with like our mouths open. Seriously, if there was like a camera in that car, that would have been like on your billboard.

Yaz:

Yeah, emotionally drained, and that's a low-key. What spring cleaning we're trying to like? Don't be emotionally drained. It's all about letting go of that cleaning we're trying to like, don't be emotionally drained.

Yaz:

It's all about letting go of that baggage honestly, because I feel like right now things just felt heavy, like winter was a heavy one yeah, and I feel like because you maybe not slack off in winter, but because you're so tired already, then like you get get hit with so much more work and so much more things like at the beginning of the year to like now, and then it kind of calms down a little bit because people are more like fun.

Ilmz:

Thank God for this heat wave that we're having right now, because I feel like I have like less energy, like I still have the same amount of work, but the pressure has like kind of died down. I think, that's one good thing about spring, like you're letting go of all these fictitious pressures. Yeah, I get that. Like the weather just makes you realize, like, dude, none of it matters, just go to the beer garden.

Yaz:

Just have a little cocktail, yeah, so maybe we should move somewhere hot. Go back to our photo shoot, right? Okay, so our first shot was in the living room. We're, like you know, housewifey, spring cleaning, getting rid of the dust and the cobwebs.

Ilmz:

Getting rid of all the dusties. Ain't no dusty touching us yeah.

Yaz:

So that's the kind of like living room scene. Then we went outside and we were taking out the trash, which is like taking out the X, putting them in the bin.

Ilmz:

Don't be fooled by how like warm it looked. We were freezing. I think we got like these frames done in like five minutes because we were like oh, like this is really cold yeah, it was really cold yeah, so cold. And then the third look was definitely like my personal favorite, my all-time favorite in terms of all the shoots that we've done the leopard print dishwashing, yeah, like scrubbing away the old and, like you know, has to polish stuff to make it good, yeah just like it's that, cleanse, that dishwashing cleanse, yeah, literally you're dirty when you go in and then you're nice and clean when you go out like

Ilmz:

winter to summer basically, oh my gosh, and I think just like the artistic vision of it was insane, like you came up with that as well, you know, we're just so happy that you guys like it like the love that we get.

Yaz:

Yes, yeah.

Ilmz:

Yeah, it is cool. Yeah, it's really exciting to just have this. This is like my spring cleaning tool, to be honest, getting to chat here and be happy about life post-breakup.

Yaz:

Yeah, it is true it's hard. It's such a hard thing to do, but normally once you do it you feel a lot lighter. That's the thing, like you feel heavy when you're going through it and you feel heavy to make the decision, and then once you do it, it's like a relief I'm telling you, once you make that decision, life actually just feels so much clearer.

Ilmz:

In the moment when you're in a relationship that's not ideal, you think to yourself oh, after, after the breakup, I'm going to be so depressed, I'm going to be so miserable, I'm never going to get over this. Once it's done, you actually get over it. I thought I'd never get over my ex-husband. As soon as, like we were done, I was like, oh, I have my life again.

Yaz:

I think it's just that, like people are scared when it's like, yeah, you have that and you might be fine. And then if you get a bad situation like a guy is like a dick for no reason or you know what I mean, it makes you feel bad. It's then that it kills you, because then you like get the hurt and then you think about your ex because you're like, oh, you know, I think that's what the hard thing is.

Ilmz:

So if men weren't such dicks, we'd all be better off but also like the thing is you can't control other people's like behavior. You can't take that shit personally, like I get it like men shouldn't be dicks, but equally like we are control of how we process other people's behavior towards us and we don't need to be a victim to their like, bullying and abuse.

Yaz:

You know yeah, easier said than done, though. No, I'm telling you like it is.

Ilmz:

It is easy to just choose yourself and not be like vacuumed into that negativity. You just gotta like not give a shit sorry, no, no, I get it.

Yaz:

I get it. It's hard, though, to not give a shit. Even if you think you don't give a shit, you sometimes give a shit. I used to have that, anyway, like even when I was like I don't even care, and then it would like there'd be a small crack and it would seep in and I'd be like I do care, I do care, I do care.

Ilmz:

It is cool to care like we're humans. It's cool to be in tune with your emotion. I'm just saying that like it's not good to let a negative experience kind of overtake how you think about certain things yeah, yeah, no, you're true.

Yaz:

You're not true.

Ilmz:

You're speaking the truth we are the truth, we are the breakup diet okay, um, so we're talking about, you know, spring cleaning, emotional baggage.

Yaz:

How would somebody deal with having a breakup and they live with their, like, their ex? Okay, how are they, like, zenning their place, you know, clearing out the energy?

Ilmz:

I don't know, you know, like the physical, the physical part of a spring clean. Oh, where do you begin with?

Yaz:

that I don't know why I should be asking you about actual cleaning, because do you clean? I have a cleaner. Yeah, that's what I was going with.

Ilmz:

I do like I do wipe the surfaces, like on the day-to-day, like okay, so you're going through a breakup while you're living with your partner.

Yaz:

Okay, maybe they've just moved out, so, like you're, you have your space back, but it used to be at your joint space oh, I think that should be a fun like opportunity to take your mind off him.

Ilmz:

You've got your space. You can design it the way you want it. You can make it as girly as you want it to be, and also it's gonna be clean. You're not gonna have like men's dirty socks and underwear. You're not gonna have like bits of beard on the freaking count like the sink.

Yaz:

Oh, what is that about?

Ilmz:

I'm like oh, oh, toothpaste on the sink or like piss droplets on the toilet. Honestly, I can make a whole episode of just like dirty shit my exes have done, like the hat, like the lack of hygiene.

Yaz:

Yeah, I could too, but I'm not gonna get embarrassed, but like bad boys are dirty.

Ilmz:

Well, he's actually not as dirty as some men, but like some men are really bad and I've married some men like it's horrible and I think when you get to have your space again, there's no other way but to just celebrate by having what you want. Yeah, I would make it so girly. I would have like vintage Vogue magazines everywhere, every single girly, sickly smelling candles. I want like funky pink things everywhere, like a pink rug, like leopard print pillowcases, like it's my space.

Yaz:

Yeah, I get you For me what I would be doing. The first thing I would be doing would be chucking out every single thing that they like in there. I don't care if you bought it together, if he was obsessed with this like little statue thing. It's gone, it's going on to Depop and I'm selling it and getting some cash money and I'm saging the bloody house with my girlfriends. I'm making it a whole experience. I'm not just doing it by myself being like ah, crying. I am making it a fun experience where you guys dance around the living room and get the energy out the window. You have to open the window to like push it out.

Ilmz:

That sounds so fun. See, like spring cleaning is the best thing ever. I feel like the community's back as well. Yeah, more people are out, more people are wanting to do things, because I think winter, everyone has their own like path off, not like depression, but everyone's going through their moment. Spring, everyone's like oh, you know what, we're back. We're back, let's hang, let's sage the bloody place, let's start the year properly. Do you feel like your year starts from like april, may?

Yaz:

yeah, I think it kind of starts starts clicking in like end of march really, and then, and then April, may is your birthday, then it's my birthday, so yeah, and then summer is always really fun. I like it all the way up until December, if I'm honest. I just don't like January and February.

Ilmz:

The January to February sprint is the hardest and I feel like we need to move somewhere.

Yaz:

Yeah, because even For those two months? Yeah, because. But to be honest, I don't like it anywhere, because I don't even like it in australia really, and that's summer I loved it in australia.

Ilmz:

It's just I don't think I can convince you to hang with me in perth for two months I like it.

Yaz:

No, I was just bored because I was just with my parents, which is nice, but then also like I need some social interaction.

Ilmz:

That is you gotta come to perth you gotta come to perth.

Yaz:

What else do you think of in spring? I think of like new, new beginnings, like it's a rebirth babe.

Ilmz:

Like I feel like I'm gonna shed into a new person this spring, even though, like I feel like, I'm in my prime graphic of you shedding like actual skin with like my vessel and everything out. Yeah, I was like oh, snaky, yeah, basically, um, yeah, I feel like I'm gonna have a rebrand this year. Spring is the time to rebrand it is.

Yaz:

What are you rebranding?

Ilmz:

I'm rebranding into basically just super hot, independent, full of life you're already super hot I know, but like I think my brand will always be the same, I think, for the sake of it, I'm just gonna like you're like, I like the continuity of these super hot, but let me just add to it super hot and well, I'm gonna get nose fillers, so that's like my little are you?

Yaz:

that's gonna be really dangerous. Well, we're doing it with joelle, okay. Okay, fine for fine. Fine, then, it's fine, you're coming with right.

Ilmz:

I don't want nose filler, but oh, you don't need it, but I want you to be there. It's like a breakup diet. Let's fuck up our faces.

Yaz:

No, I you know what I would do. Is that salmon sperm thing?

Ilmz:

joelle does it, so why don't you get salmon sperm? I get a cute like nose. There we go. Glowy skin, cute nose that's our spring rebrand.

Yaz:

That is spring rebrand. What would you tell somebody right now if they were going through a breakup?

Ilmz:

if you're going through a breakup right now, I'm gonna tell you right up this is an exciting time to look forward to. Like the sun is out, there's longer hours in the day, you can get way more stuff done. Now's the time for you to basically scheme what your year's gonna be. Have a vision board. I feel like that vision board you plan for new year's eve. Bring that back and add it and actually act on it yeah, that is true.

Yaz:

Why is it so hard to actually act on stuff at the beginning of the year, but easier like mid-year?

Ilmz:

winter's just not the time for rebranding. No one's got the energy like back in the days, like cavemen would just hibernate, like seriously, and then life would pick up in the spring. That's when they'd start harvesting all the fresh berries and killing all like the animals what do you come out? With no, but like that's like. It's just like a primitive thing. That's like you asked like oh, why are we so hibernating in the winter? It's like a primitive, like behavior, primal behavior.

Yaz:

Yeah, so now we're ready to hunt.

Ilmz:

We are ready to hunt. And look, you don't have to hunt for men. Sometimes the hunt is just a better you yeah.

Yaz:

Yeah, I mean we're always going to be better, you know. But the hunt can be job, it can be money, it can be friends, it can be more, it can be friends. It you get more social, that's friends. The kind of thing could be yourself it could be a man could be a girl, could be more, could be adult. Yeah, you're greedy, so it could be them all yeah.

Ilmz:

So I think people who are going through a breakup right now like, please, like, be excited. This year's about to get so good, like you don't even know the amount of rebranding you're gonna go through. It's gonna be the best thing ever scary at the moment, but once you're there and when you want it bad enough, you're gonna get it. The intention always has to be there. That's the thing with spring cleaning. You have to want a better you. Yeah, you have to.

Yaz:

I thought you were gonna be like you have to want a better you. Yeah, you have to. I thought you were going to be like you have to want to clean. I'm like who wants to clean, but then sometimes I do get in modes where I clean, sometimes like the actual act of physical cleaning, gives you such clarity.

Yaz:

Yeah, you think you can also like put on music as well and, like I don't know, it does make you feel so much better when your room is clean or something, and that's kind of like your brain Like when you I don't know.

Ilmz:

Declutter your brain. You feel so much better. Your anxiety is gone, your kind of depression is gone.

Yaz:

Also when you have a big cry. I've had one of those days Like I'm having an emotional day. So I'm not as upbeat as I normally am, but it's like I feel like tomorrow I'm gonna be very happy because I had a big cry today.

Ilmz:

So then, hopefully, but that's the thing. That's the thing. We're just so real and raw with it. Like I know, we're always like, oh my god, breakups are great, blah, blah, blah, or like feeling all these emotions is gonna be great. But there are times and it's such a human thing to feel very like today's a lot, yeah, overwhelmed, exactly, and like you're always gonna get the raw version of us, no matter what. Yeah, like I've cried on episodes you have yet to cry.

Yaz:

I did cry on one, but we've scratched that. Yeah, unfortunately it was a bit too much. That one was a bit too much. It was a bit too gloom for listeners to just watch me cry for like 30 minutes, but you know but like this is still very raw.

Ilmz:

You're like being vulnerable, being like, oh guys, like today's not my day, but like this is just the reality of life and that's okay, it is.

Yaz:

Some days are good, some days bad, yeah, but sometimes you just can't get out of it. You just think I'm in one of those days where I just can't stop thinking about everything, like everything. It all hits you at once, like oh, yeah, and I just don't feel good at all, like in any department don't feel good. That's why it's like and I haven't had one of these days in a while Like really, where it's like everything, it's not like just one thing.

Ilmz:

Now, I'm like Analyzing everything. Look, it happens, and I feel like it kind of happens in the end of winter and spring, because you're like, oh, like it's been three months into the year, what am I doing? What have I accomplished? It hits you like a brick and it happens to be the end of like winter, like q1.

Yaz:

Yeah, sorry, that's such a fine, yeah I've heard of q1 before and I'm like don't work in finance but I was like.

Ilmz:

I know that. But, like you know, q1's ending and it's natural for you to kind of be reflecting of everything. We've had a hectic start to the year, you and I yeah like in terms of work, like the pod has been amazing, but, boy, like you guys are keeping us busy yeah, yeah, that's the thing as well.

Yaz:

People don't see all the stuff that goes behind it. It's just like they see the episodes come out of the social media and then they are like oh, my gosh like the blood, sweat and tears we both had like four character developments, every single. Like it's from the start of the year, it's only like month three, babe, like each it's a lot the things that have been like going through like every week.

Ilmz:

I'm like okay, what's?

Yaz:

happening now.

Ilmz:

What other life event now? What's happening now? What other life event now? And I think and I hope spring marks the end of like that roller coaster. Spring means that we get out of that ride and actually just smell the roses you know like how our slogan is.

Yaz:

Like I think you should be like a poet or some sort of like you should write music, because you really do have some very good phrases. Like I'll give it to you, smell the roses, it's the.

Ilmz:

It's a theater kid in me, but I was like gonna say you know how our saying is like buckle up bitches, like it's about to get bumpy. I think spring is the time when we unbuckle it up and just actually zen out yeah, let's not buckle up, bitches, let's just like calm, let's get out of the ride smooth, let's like touch some grass and look straight up in the sky.

Yaz:

Yeah, we're reconnecting with nature in spring yeah, maybe we need a rebrand to not buckle up, bitch, it's gonna get bumpy.

Ilmz:

It's like buckle up, bitches, buckle unbuckle up bitches, let's smell the roses yeah, and become zen.

Yaz:

do you have any like red flags, x, ics, whatever you're not taking into this spring?

Ilmz:

Okay, I am leaving behind impatience. Winter makes me one grumpy girl, Like even when I get that everyone's slurred, things have slowed down, everyone's hibernating. Somehow I feel like I'm on this hamster wheel of things to do and the things to do like racks up. I want to just let go and be patient of the process be more calm.

Yaz:

Be more calm smell the roses.

Ilmz:

I'll be sniffing that up. What are you doing? What are some icks you're leaving behind?

Yaz:

getting overwhelmed is my ick. I'm get icked out of myself because I get so overwhelmed that like I can't do anything or see anyone because all I want to do is, like edit. But then because I'm so overwhelmed or I can't do that, so I get icked out by myself because I have no friends, I have no life and I do nothing besides edit. But then I don't even edit. I end up watching TikTok because I'm just don't know where to start.

Ilmz:

I think for you your spring cleaning thing should be writing down. Do you write lists?

Yaz:

I do, but I haven't written one in ages. I used to always. So you haven't written a list in a while, that's probably why you're feeling overwhelmed.

Ilmz:

Start Start writing lists. Once you have stuff ticked off, I promise you you will find time.

Yaz:

Yeah, Also an ick for me is just not taking time for myself.

Ilmz:

It has to be done, but it's like so hard when you're just in this constant cycle of just working, churning out content like family stuff, relationships. It's hard and I think spring is the time for you to slow down and actually give yourself some time. We've got an extra hour now. Thank you. Daylight Savings, Thank you. That's an extra hour to you. How are you going to spend that hour?

Yaz:

Chilling, I know, I know I just said overwhelmed, like you know, I'm gonna take like an everything shower. I'm gonna like put on a face mask, put in a hair mask, kind of act as if I'm going through a breakup. Low-key, but just so that I'm just, you know, bettering myself. So I feel good 100.

Ilmz:

I think journaling is pretty great. I journal a lot and I think that's probably why I'm so happy, because when I read like through my pages I'm like, oh, I'm so happy on this day, I was so happy on that day so what do you say, though?

Yaz:

do you just say whatever comes to your head, or?

Ilmz:

um, I only choose to write positive things because your brain will then only remember positive stuff. I don't really like to dwell on negative stuff because I've spent a lot of my 20s being a negative person. Being married to the wrong person was made me a very negative, toxic person that's actually really interesting to only put the positive things.

Yaz:

I've never heard that that's good, though it makes sense yeah.

Ilmz:

I think so too, because why would I want to immortalize negative moments in writing? Because, like same way with social media, you wouldn't want to immortalize a picture of you being sad. For social media, you only want to remember the good bits. Yeah, and I think that's the same way that I take approach in my journaling I only want to remember the good bits and therefore be more gratitude, like grateful.

Yaz:

But how do you not do you write every day? I write every other day, yeah. But how do you not do you write every day? I write every other day, yeah. Because how do you not say the same thing over and over and over again? Because I feel like that would be my, that would be my, like downfall. So I'd always be like I'm grateful for this, and then it would be like, after a little bit, it'd probably be like the same thing all the time.

Ilmz:

When you have the intention, have the intention, you'll find so many like great things. Like even for me. Sometimes my like journaling is like two sentences where I'm like, oh, I got to have the best.

Ilmz:

Like hour-long catch-up with one of my friends from back home or like, oh, like today, like yaz and I we got this deal, like this is like our biggest thing that we've ever done, like, okay, yeah, and you kind of like track your growth yeah, that is a good idea. I might actually start doing that, please, and I think that's gonna help you kind of like track your growth yeah, that is a good idea. I might actually start doing that, please, and I think that's going to help you kind of decongest up here, because that's what it is. I think you're scrolling too much. Doom scrolling is a terrible, terrible habit. Doom scrolling get rid of that. Journaling only the positive moments. Do it for like a week, yas, or even 48 hours, and I'm going to moments.

Yaz:

Do it for like a week, yes, or even 48 hours, and I'm gonna tell you you're gonna feel so much lighter. Yeah, I might actually delete my um.

Ilmz:

I can't really delete my tiktok oh no, no, don't delete it, just like limit yourself for like an hour yeah, to be fair, I am spending a lot more time on social media than I used to ever it's because our job is in social media yeah, but I never used to like look at stuff at all.

Yaz:

And now, now I do notice that I always get that banner that comes up on my phone being like you're done your limit and then I'm like extend limit today. But it happens every day, don't?

Ilmz:

extend it, but I think I only have like two hours, but that is a lot on there.

Yaz:

Yeah, when you think about it.

Ilmz:

Yeah, no, don't extend it. Yeah, like eat an apple journal, do something. Eat an apple Apples are great sources of serotonin. That's why the doctors suggest it.

Yaz:

Really I do like an apple, though.

Ilmz:

See, so maybe eat an apple every time you get a banner in your phone. All right, so that's your spring cleaning to-do list. Eat an apple, no more doom. Scrolling List. Journal list and journal the positive things in your life, because there's a lot of great things in your life. Yes, if you're going through a breakup, like now's the time to like declutter your socials, archive all the photos or maybe delete, um you know, give some life back, give some you back into your social media. Make it more about you. Good idea.

Yaz:

Yeah, take away all the highlights that he might be in.

Ilmz:

Yeah, and just make it about you. It's your space again.

Yaz:

Yeah, feel hot, look hot, be hot. Re-banter Ilma, that's hot consistently plus.

Ilmz:

In my prime forever how?

Yaz:

lucky am I. Seriously seriously, it's true, though. You speak truth. Didn't I say that?

Ilmz:

yeah, we speak the truth and we smell the roses. And that is the breakup, spring cleaning edition. You.

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Ilma Shahrene

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Yasmin Misner

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