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The Break-Up Diet
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You Know It’s Over When…
Breaking up starts long before those final words are spoken. In this raw and revealing episode, we explore the undeniable signs that signal when a relationship has run its course - from communication breakdowns to fading admiration.
We've all been there: making excuses for partners who miss birthdays, experiencing those uncomfortable silences, or feeling the subtle shift when you'd rather spend time with friends than your significant other. These aren't just bumps in the road; they're your intuition screaming that something fundamental has changed.
What makes this conversation so powerful is our shared vulnerability. We open up about our own experiences with relationship endings - from the times we went "super psycho" near the end (because they'd stopped putting in effort that once came naturally), to moments of clarity when we realized we no longer admired the person we were with.
The most profound insight? The distinction between seeing someone for their potential versus accepting their reality. Many of us stay trapped in the fantasy of who our partner could become rather than acknowledging who they truly are right now. As we discuss, men often choose based on present reality while women frequently invest in potential - a perspective that might revolutionize your approach to relationships.
Whether you're questioning your current relationship or healing from a past breakup, this episode offers the clarity and validation you've been seeking. Trust your gut, see the patterns for what they are, and remember - actions speak louder than words. Ask yourself: are you choosing reality or fantasy?
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Hey guys, welcome back to an episode of the Breakup Diet. Today we want to talk about when you know it's over.
Ilmz:Yeah, some signs, basically to know when it's done.
Yaz:It's crazy because the signs can either be super vague or very in your face.
Ilmz:Yeah, I feel like they're vague when you're actually going through it, almost because you're in denial, and then when, after, like the reflection, you're like oh it's like oh, actually he kind of didn't like me yeah actually he didn't want to be with me.
Yaz:He threw signs and I was like I can't see literally I'm blind buckle up, bitches.
Ilmz:This's gonna get bumpy. This is the breakup diet. I feel like that's anything. It's like always when you're going through a situation. It's like the emotion's so high, right and so bad. And then after you're like, why was I such a psycho, why was I so?
Yaz:upset. But sometimes it kind of makes sense when you're upset because your normal routine in your relationship has been disrupted. So there are examples like oh, he doesn't take you out as much anymore, he doesn't call you every night as he used to back in the day, oh yeah, yeah, it like throws you off and it's natural for you to be like what the hell? I have gone super psycho towards the end of all my relationships like what super psycho.
Ilmz:How give it to me?
Yaz:oh, like as in I would wake up first thing crying first thing, like causing drama, like fights, blah, blah blah, and I'd always bring back the past being like but you used to do all this for me back when you first got together. Like, like, why have you changed? Like, what have I done wrong? Why am I not good enough? Like, oh my gosh, god forbid, I'll have that conversation again.
Ilmz:No, but I feel like, who do we have on? We had a guest on and they were saying about it's fine when you have communication if it's a certain way the whole time, but when it changes changes like when they were spoiling you at the start or they had like a they're texting you all the time and then when they stop and it's that change, you know, that makes it like the signs.
Yaz:No, that change throws you off and I hate that. I felt like such a. I felt guilty for being reacting to that.
Ilmz:It's not my fault, no, yeah. When people say like, oh, she's crazy, I'm like yeah, you made her crazy. Like you know what I mean, you probably did something I don't trust any men that's like.
Yaz:My exes are crazy. I run from them that's a red flag. If they talk badly about their ex, like really badly, or they say that she's crazy and a psycho, then I'm like oh I feel like it's a bit awkward when people talk about their exes in a bad way and then like we've got a podcast and all but like in. Like the context of dating. I don't think it's good to like shit. Talk your ex.
Ilmz:No, I don't with mine no, no, no, we only do it on here. Oh no, I don't think it is a good to do either, like if you're on a first date, second date. I think exes shouldn't even be brought up until like a solid six months low key or like brought up properly maybe, maybe, like vaguely like oh, why'd you end?
Yaz:The classy response is oh, we didn't work out, it's not a lie.
Ilmz:Yeah, yeah, yeah. Also, I feel like that should only be on like the fourth or fifth date then, Like obviously you want to know if they have an ex, because you want to know. Yeah.
Yaz:Because they're capable of having a long term relationship. Yeah.
Ilmz:Yeah, but but I don't think it's like good to go into it deeply.
Yaz:I agree, shall we jump straight into the episode. So we briefly touched on red flags that kind of indicate that the relationship is kind of ending. What are some obvious ones? What are some subtle ones?
Ilmz:would be like if you're, as we said before, like talking all the time at the start and you always want to have calls, like before you go to bed, and if those like slowly fade and you just kind of don't care to do it, you just stop caring about putting in the effort yeah, that's when you kind of know yeah, or like for me, we'd always make plans to see each other, right, and then I kind of knew it was over when I asked him like when am I seeing you next?
Ilmz:and he was like I don't know, yeah, I remember you saying that that's so rough, like I don't know well, can you help make a decision with me because I want to see you? Why not, yeah? And also, like I don't know, it's like that's not very motivating, is it?
Yaz:no, it's making you feel really special. Yeah, it's like such a kick to the stomach and then, like before you know it, two days after, he's like can I come around? We need to have a conversation. Oh yeah, that's a very not a red flag, but that's a very obvious sign that it's ending conversation yeah we need to have a chat. Yeah, we need to have a chat.
Ilmz:I haven't got that actually, but I would. That would throw me, that would throw me. I've just got ghosted, I've not had, but can we have a conversation?
Yaz:Yeah, and I was very like I acted dumb. I was like, yeah, no, all my friends are around, come around. And then they were all there and he's like what? And I'm like I told you Like one of my friends was living with me at the time, like you knew that there was going to be a full house.
Ilmz:And he had, he had to like awkwardly kind of take me away, is that when he broke up with you in your bedroom? Oh God, yeah. And then like, why didn't he just come back a different day?
Yaz:I would have just held it in one more day and just like waited until they left or something.
Ilmz:Yeah, I think my friends kind of got the hint before I did, and they were like, oh, we're just going to go down to the pub, did they see when he like walked in and kind of got a vibe?
Yaz:yeah, I didn't get the vibe because I was like this was two days after my divorce party. We were still like having a debrief about that.
Ilmz:That's so rude. You would have been fragile as well because of like how much we partied at the divorce party that was the worst hangover of my life.
Yaz:I had to be sober for six months. It was that bad yeah, I'm not surprised.
Ilmz:I'm not surprised to be fair. It was very fun, but like I'm not surprised, yeah, so for that to happen, yeah, that's just mean very you're still you're still hanging two days later, especially now. I also think like another point, that's like showing that maybe they're not interested anymore. Something like this would be if you're always making excuses for them, like they forget your birthday, okay, maybe once, like you could let it slide.
Yaz:I know that's not ideal, but like, but you're like, oh no, but he was so busy with work, he finished work so late.
Ilmz:That's why we couldn't do anything that day yeah, and then your anniversary, then valentine's day, then christmas. You know what I mean. There's always something. So you're always being like oh no, no, but this happened, or no, no, but this happened.
Ilmz:Then I'm kind of like the second, you're over compensating for something that's when you kind of know that it's but I think that's hard to come to terms to with as well, because if there's been like a few cases, but then also you're like, yeah, but but do you think that that's just like somebody justifying it?
Yaz:I don't know no, I get it when, like because life does get in the way, sometimes it does, a hundred percent it does. But when it is very important moments I would take offense. But then, equally, I would also show a front to my friends and family. Be like oh no, guys, like he's been so busy, like work's been crazy for him. It's hard. You already feel like an idiot.
Ilmz:You just don't want to look like one yeah, yeah, and also it can make you feel a bit. That can make you feel crazy too, because maybe you're just like asking for too much and maybe like that isn't the standard you know what I mean. Yeah, it's like I'm sorry that celebrating my birthday is too much to ask for what yeah, yeah, don't make me feel bad about it, or yeah, just because you didn't do that in your last relationship and she was okay with it, doesn't mean I am no, exactly, it's just not on.
Yaz:No two relationships are the same.
Ilmz:I was about to say if we dated, it would be different if somebody else and you dated, even though we wouldn't date.
Yaz:But you know what I mean. I get you Not too off on the tangent, but sometimes I just think I feel like my friends, like the quality of dates I have with my girlfriends is so much better than men.
Ilmz:Yeah, I feel like dating is kind of boring. Boring especially when you're going on first dates and first things, or it's just like because I have such amazing experiences with, like you, girls yeah like the kind of stuff that we do outside of work.
Yaz:It's like we go to the most amazing restaurants, have like really nice meals and, like you know, it's such a vibe, and with guys it's like, oh, just like, come around, we can go. Like, oh, just like, come around, we can go for a drink and then, like, come around after.
Ilmz:Yeah, I get you, it's hard.
Yaz:It's hard and also like sometimes, if you want it to be more fun, you know, when you go on a girls night and you have so much fun and you guys are all getting drunk, tipsy and you're like just chatting shit basically, and then when you go out with a guy and it's kind of more like reformed and you're kind of like so reformed, and even if I am like a bit tipsy and like bubbly and stuff, I kind of feel like fuck, like is he gonna expect my body by the end of it, as opposed to with the girls, it's like I know, it's just like a nice fun time.
Ilmz:Yeah, the uncomfortable silence moment have you ever had an uncomfortable silence?
Yaz:yeah where, like I've gone days without talking to my boyfriend in the expense of trying to be the cool girlfriend, not to be too chasey fair, but but were you like thinking about him the whole time? So it was like he was like, on my mind, rent free, and I felt like, oh no, maybe it's like I shouldn't chase because I know he's so busy with work. He was like he was abroad for work, so okay.
Yaz:So it was like the guy was like away and you didn't want to be like pestering him all the time yeah, and then I think that kind of changed the dynamic of the relationship where we just weren't talking as much anymore.
Ilmz:Yeah, fair, and then you probably got used to like that habit.
Yaz:Frequent communication is very important in relationships.
Ilmz:Yeah.
Yaz:And when it's not there, that is a very obvious sign that it's on its way over. Yeah.
Ilmz:And if you can't tell them everything, like if you can't be open with what you want to say, like if you're filtering stuff, I think that's like a sign to know it's almost done, because you should be able to, like, talk to them about most things, even if they don't fully understand it. No, I completely agree.
Yaz:Like boys just have to listen, exactly just communication. We gotta improve that system.
Ilmz:It's honestly like anyone also, like if I'm on a I saw a tiktok, right yeah, like two days ago if I'm on a rant and I'm annoyed, I don't need your advice. Actually, you know what I mean. I don't want your advice, you just shut up, shut up, let me have my rant, don't tell me what I should do, and? And then after after, you can give me your advice when I've cooled down, maybe the next day.
Yaz:I do think like giving emotional people advice is just not the thing to do.
Ilmz:No, they're seeing red, you know they're seeing red.
Yaz:I think like the best thing you can do is just listen, like there's just.
Ilmz:That's almost why, if you're going to a breakup or something this is my new look on it it shouldn't be like an impulsive thing that you decide because your emotions are so high. It's like something you have to sit on for a while. I think even even if it's like a bad thing that's happened, I would sit on it.
Yaz:Sorry if something bad happened, like I would immediately. This is me like after double therapy no, I wouldn't.
Ilmz:It depends on what it is obviously context is everything, but if something is like really bad, obviously, if it's really bad, yeah, yeah, but like I mean if it's bad, but like I don't know, I think there's context in it like I would sit on it for a day, but I would like I probably wouldn't respond and then send I'm done.
Ilmz:Yeah like I'm not saying you're sitting there, you know, having a conversation, you get the news, you sit on it, you think like what the hell? And then you just go, because then I feel like you've reflected, even if it's not long. You reflected and then you cut, whereas like, if you're impulsive, then you're gonna have the thought always yeah, you're gonna be like shit.
Yaz:Did I make the right decision?
Ilmz:yeah yeah, so at least not even if it's like not long. But I mean like you don't talk to them while you're seeing red yeah, while you're seeing red, you calm yourself, because then also your delivery of when you break up is going to be better.
Yaz:So then you win it'll be more mature, more just classier and you want to leave the breakup like with your head held high yeah, yeah and also.
Ilmz:Then you can just give them even less, because you can be like yeah, yeah, okay, I'm not into that bi kind of thing, instead of like you did this, you fucking asshole, I hate you, which I feel like you might feel all those things, but then it's almost they're probably going to wonder It'll backfire you.
Yaz:And then?
Ilmz:they're going to wonder how does she just like, say like I'm not into this bi, after she's like yelled at me like yeah, how am I the bad person?
Yaz:exactly yeah, the emotional roller coaster of mood swings.
Ilmz:I think that's a sign when it's kind of over I think it is a sign, especially for girls because I think girls go through the breakup so much before you know what I mean that if they're the one breaking up, they're like processing it, so like if you're having constant mood swings, that's kind of like a sign one minute you're like I love them.
Yaz:The next minute you're like I think you're gonna break up it's really that that is such an obvious sign because if you want to be with them, you would know 100 that they're your person. You want to be with them.
Ilmz:You wouldn't even entertain the idea of, oh, I don't think that they're the person for me, because if you entertain that, that means you know they're not the person for you but then also, do you not find that, like sometimes, when you're really close to somebody, you can like sometimes really get annoyed with them and like you know, like your mom, for example, I'm thinking about my mom, love my mom, closest person to, but like she annoys me the most?
Yaz:too. No, I get it Like you can have your partner be annoying, but you wouldn't even entertain like oh, I don't know if they're not the person for me because they did something annoying.
Ilmz:Okay, okay, I get you. I get what you're saying. Yeah, so if you're having mood swings and they're going up, and down like. If about whether they're the person for you, I think that's when you know it's gonna, because you think like if they were your person.
Yaz:You would just, you just wouldn't entertain that thought.
Ilmz:Yeah, at all, no yeah, it's also like on the reverse of like if somebody is, like you know, saying they love you in bed and all this sort of thing, like in the morning when you wake up or whatever, and then they're the next day not speaking to you till three days later, that's like a situationship sign that it's. You know it's done 100.
Yaz:I think never, ever listen to just their words and ignore their action. You know what I mean. It's their action that speaks way more than words. If they say one thing and they act the other way, you know it's done action always over words almost.
Yaz:But it's hard because you can get so locked in and so trapped by words you do get trapped by words, but that's when you're like, okay, what's real and what's a fantasy? Let me focus on what the reality is and make a decision on that yeah, and also, you don't have to be like an overnight decision.
Ilmz:You know what I mean. Like if this happens a few times, if this happens over the space of six months, then it's the reflection of okay, I've had enough, I need to like, it's enough. Now I shouldn't be having spirals with my partner.
Yaz:Yeah, for this long as well.
Ilmz:Like it's not healthy yeah, and you can make excuses, like you can be like oh, they're really busy with work, or oh they um just got, they just like lost their job, job, oh, they have no money at the moment or you know what I mean.
Yaz:But there comes a point where you have to choose yourself, because living with this kind of emotional mood swings is not sustainable in the wrong long run yeah, and also because life does get difficult, also like, yeah you, might you right now be like having like a good life?
Ilmz:you know what I mean. Pretty stable, okay. But then imagine if something flips up in your life, you want them to be your support and your calm and your stability you know what I mean.
Yaz:And if they're not providing a while, things in life are going great that's what freaks me out, like that.
Ilmz:That freaks me out for, like when I'm older. You know what I mean. If you marry the wrong person, or if you're with the wrong person even as a partner, and then stuff does flip upside down and you want to lean on them and they're not there. I'm like you must feel so lonely, yeah.
Yaz:That's scary, that is.
Ilmz:Because, at the end of the day, I think everybody wants support and everyone wants to feel like they can lean on someone.
Ilmz:Yeah, that's why you're with them to begin with. So another thing would be like also we kind of said this at the start about people like talking about their ex. But if they're talking about their ex all the time, even if it's like subtle things, but they're dropping in like oh, she used to do this or oh, this place reminds me of the time that I went to lunch with evany like I just made up that name, you know what I mean then it's like do you miss them? Why are you thinking about them so much?
Yaz:I think I agree, and especially if they're like shit talking their ex. Still, you're kind of like, oh, you're obviously overcompensating for something yeah, you're still really hurt.
Ilmz:And why are you still really hurt is what I'd be thinking.
Yaz:Oh, I was gonna say from my experiences, when a guy like shit talks a girl a lot, it means that they've got some kind of a feeling for that yeah, yeah. I'm kind of like saying the same thing but like when they're like you've got hurt because they really care, like yeah, you know what I mean? They still care. So they sound really hurt because they really care, like yeah, you know what I mean.
Ilmz:They still care. So they sound really hurt because they're still like that's when I'm thinking, oh, is the ex kind of in the picture again.
Yaz:If you're thinking about her, if you're stalking her, like yeah, that to me is a very obvious sign that the relationship is on its way.
Ilmz:You just reminded me of something. So I know somebody that they basically were talking to this guy over the last. Like this is a little story time. They're talking to this guy over the last like maybe like a couple years, like 10 years, like on and off had a thing but never really been together, have had a flirty thing on a few dates here and there, but they both have soft spots for each other, you can tell. Anyway, he finally was like gonna, you know, book a hotel and they were gonna go out for a nice date and all this.
Ilmz:And then he randomly, like the week before, was talking about his ex to her right and like kind of like showing them how they broke up and all this sort of stuff, like showing her messages and all this sort of thing. And then he's randomly they were meant to go to this weekend to the hotel, um, and they have this whole romantic weekend getaway thing and he's just suddenly gone, like switched his whole communication which is like she's like what the hell? And she's like this guy I've known for like over 10 years and now he's suddenly done that, like what? And I literally the first thing I said is if the way he's not spoken to you like before, is like that.
Ilmz:She's like it's not the same person. Like over text it sounds like I'm like he's back with his ex and she was like that's the first thing I thought and I would just pay money to know now if he is. So if he is, I'm gonna come back and tell you because, like it's just crazy how he was like obviously showing text messages of them breaking up and like all these things that she did, and then they were going to go on a you know holiday and now suddenly his communication has changed. He's gone cold and it's obviously because he feels guilty or and like as like wants to get back with the ex. So he doesn't obviously want to take the person I know out oh, the sign is so obvious yeah, it's over, that's over.
Yaz:So another sign you know it's kind of over is when you're actively choosing to hang out with your friends over your partner yeah, I think so.
Ilmz:I think that is a sign. I think there's like you obviously want to hang out with your friends too, even when you have a boyfriend and all this sort of thing. But then I think if you're always choosing to like go to the pub with your friends or go on a walk with your friends instead of going on a walk with your boyfriend, or that, then I'm like, oh, yeah, I think if you're like actively kind of avoiding your boyfriend, there's, there's something in your intuition telling you that you need to end it so why would you be avoiding your boyfriend?
Ilmz:it would be like if you're, you don't have as much fun yeah, if you don't have as much fun, something really bad happened.
Yaz:You're like oh, I need to like distance myself yeah but I also don't know how to like make the decision at the moment. Let me just distance myself right now.
Ilmz:Yeah it is a hard one, because you also you do want to see your friends and you don't want them to be like you're not saying anything, because all you do is see your boyfriend. But then also you do, you should see your boyfriend and you should want to see your boyfriend or your partner, you should want to spend the time with them, because they should kind of be the closest, like they've been the closest to you if you get what I'm saying, so like yeah, but it's just something that's telling you yeah, then yeah it's obviously.
Ilmz:No, it's over have you ever had it when you've tried to see your friends over your boyfriend? Oh, my god, all the time sorry every relationship, yeah, yeah, my first relationship.
Yaz:Yeah, I would like actively choose to do something with my friends because the plans were just better. He like stopped making efforts with like fun dates and I'm like you know what, let me just go to the restaurant with my girlfriends did he care about that, or he was just like no, I go I could tell he was hurt, but I think he felt a bit emasculated and didn't feel like saying anything.
Ilmz:Fair.
Yaz:His problem, not mine.
Ilmz:Fair. So he was like oh, so you?
Yaz:are going to art. Oh, like it was called, art oh.
Ilmz:Yeah, I've done that, like, I've done that, like not necessarily that exact thing, I can't think of it, but I definitely have been like, oh, so you're going to do that, that, think of it. But I definitely have been like, oh, so you're gonna do that that. We talked about that that weekend. This is like a side topic, but sometimes girls when they say something, they mean something else, like been there, but I do it like oh, what do you want to do?
Yaz:I don't mind if I give you two options generation, where we're like forced to act, like we're too cool to care. We care. I hate that we have to be so nonchalant. Be like oh no, no, no. Like I don't want to be too much. I don't want to like say how I feel, because that's going to be too much.
Ilmz:I don't know, I don't know if that is it, though I feel like so many people are so indecisive, also just with decisions too. That could be it too. You know what I mean? Like I have it with my parents, like my mom will sometimes not make a decision on where she wants to go, even though I know that she wants to go to this place. I'm like I know you want to go there, just say you want to go there, don't say you don't mind, but then I do the same thing and I'm like, oh, that's so annoying. Why is everyone?
Ilmz:so indecisive exactly people need to be more assertive with their decisions yeah, just tell me what you want, yeah, and if I don't want it, I'll tell you. And then, yeah, we can change.
Yaz:Yeah, it saves like a 20 minute conversation off like back and forth.
Ilmz:It's pointless or you go to the place that they choose and then you say I wish we went to the other place. I'm like that drives me. I'd be like get out. I'm like, oh, you are, I will have a date by myself get out.
Yaz:You didn't have to come with me. Yeah, you could have said something, God. So what's another telltale sign that you've seen or you've experienced where you're like oh, it's over.
Ilmz:When people ask you about them and you can't like really talk about them. I think that's a sign. Or you're not like excited to tell you about them and you can't like really talk about them. I think that's a sign. Or you're not like excited to tell people about them because, like I like to look up to someone and think that they're the best person ever and like like admire them. Oh, 100%, yeah, so I know that it's open for myself if you're no longer like admiring them anymore.
Yaz:Yeah, when they've been taken off the pedestal. Yeah, that's when you know, oh.
Ilmz:That's a massive one for me, that I'm like okay, I don't actually think you're that great, which is so rough, which they might be, but, like before, I was, but not to you anymore, and that's okay. Yeah, and before I was like, oh my God, you could do anything, and I would be like mesmerized, almost Like as in not anything, but you know what I mean. Like you're like they just think they're the best version.
Yaz:I think that's the sign, yeah, when you no longer see that best version, yeah, of themselves.
Ilmz:That's when you know, I think, when the reality starts to seep in, you're like, oh, you're just like this idea that I projected on you yeah, because I feel like a lot of people hold on to hope and the fantasy of what the or the potential sorry of what they could be sure potential is a big thing. Yeah, because, okay, yeah, they might not be where I want them to be right now, but they're working really hard and I can see that and they're, you know, they're gonna be this or they're gonna be the best dad or they're gonna be you know what I mean the best boyfriend. When they stop working 12 hours in finance, you know what I mean.
Yaz:Like it's always yeah, I think we put way too much emphasis on the potential than the reality yeah, and I think that's hard too, because, also, you don't know what the future is gonna be.
Ilmz:So, yes, you can look and be like that's what I hope it's gonna be be, but then you don't know. So you could be wasting and not even wasting, you could just be like suffering through the present.
Yaz:Because I like kind of spoke about it with men I've dated and they've kind of said, because I've kind of talked to them, like you know, women always choose the potential over the reality. And they've been like, no, we chose reality. Like we never go out with someone thinking that, oh, she will potentially be really hot. We only go out with someone if they're hot. If they're my type, right now, nothing else I'm not gonna go out with her being like, oh she will be this like naomi campbell model no I'm only gonna be with naomi campbell.
Yaz:Now fair, fair and I think that's quite inspiring and I've kind of taken a leaf out of their notebook yeah, fair.
Ilmz:So you're only gonna go out with them if they're hot.
Yaz:Now I'm gonna go out with what's real yeah, fair if they've got a great job if they've got the ambition, the drive, they've got the looks as well high standards, high standards, same iconic.
Ilmz:you consistently hot, love that anyway. I think the like points to like make clear from this would be trust your gut, see the signs if there's a repeat and things as well, like if you're repeatingly, repeatingly, is that a word had a consistent like up and down? You know what I mean Of the emotions like hot and cold, the mixed emotions thing. Or he's like not put in effort consistently, not just like two weeks out of like the three years you've been together. I'm talking it has to be like, it has to be a long-term kind of thing and then just like see the signs for what they are.
Yaz:Yeah, look at the actions, not the words, choose the reality, not the fantasy, and ultimately make a decision that benefits you. It's hard at the start.
Ilmz:It's even harder to stay in it for longer than not 100%.
Yaz:Thank you so much for watching. We hope you've taken something from this.
Ilmz:Yeah, thank you, and see the signs.
