The Break-Up Diet

Travel Alone. Glow Up. Thank Yourself Later. With Sabrina Vittoria.

• Yasmin Misner and Ilma Shahrene • Season 1 • Episode 49

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Sabrina Vittoria from Love Is Blind UK knows what it’s like to face heartbreak in the spotlight — and she’s here to share exactly how she turned pain into power. From panic attacks at press events to a full-blown glow-up, Sabrina opens up about the intentional healing practices that changed everything.

In this episode, you’ll hear how:

  • Solo travel became Sabrina’s ultimate breakup cure (with LA as her go-to “heartbreak destination”)
  • Daily gratitude helped her stop spiraling and start thriving
  • Unconventional hacks like “squatting out” negative thoughts and the 4-4-4 breathing method rewired her mindset
  • Her three-day breakup toolkit (bath bombs, books, and Pilates) can help anyone move from heartbreak to healing
  • Dating after reality TV means protecting your peace and learning to be happy alone first
  • She completed all seven continents with a solo trip to Antarctica ✈️

This is your reminder that healing isn’t linear, heartbreak doesn’t define you, and sometimes the best glow-up is falling back in love with yourself.




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Ilmz:

Hey guys, welcome back to the Breakup Diet. Today we are joined by Sabrina Vittoria. You may have seen her on Lovers Blind. You now probably see her living her best life, like staying in Monaco, Amsterdam where to next? But we are so lucky to have been able to like grab a hold of your time, Welcome to the pod.

Sabrina:

Thank you so much for having me. I'm so excited to be here. What's been going on it's kind of been a bit of a whirlwind, it's. You know, this is quite crazy because tonight I'm going to the press night for season two of love is blind. And it's so crazy because, if I look back at the girl I was a year ago I was going into that event and I was so riddled with anxiety I had a panic attack middle of a fence and had to be taken out. And today I feel so happy, so confident, so much stronger, resilient, and I just feel like the last year, while it's had its challenges, so many blessings have happened as well and I'm so grateful for my life and all of the opportunities and the traveling and work that I'm getting to do and, yeah, just feeling very grateful right now let's switch it up.

Yaz:

We've been holding back way too much. Welcome to the breakup diet.

Ilmz:

I feel like sometimes you have to kind of go through bad things for the good things to show up.

Sabrina:

I think it sucks. It sucks and sometimes it's really hard to understand it when you're in it. Yeah, but I really believe that, like, defined intervention is redirection, like everything happens for a reason and you got redirected to the best possible outcome honestly how come you were scared, scared for the edit it wasn't the edit.

Sabrina:

I had no issue with the edit. I think it was just because the experience was very traumatic for me. Obviously I went on there to meet the love of my life and and get married and and things didn't work out as I had hoped. And then, a year on, I was seeing my, the person I married, for the first time, and then at the press event last year, they actually showed our wedding, which we didn't realize until we went into the event and, like you have hundreds of people in that room and then I realized that they weren't going to know. You know, we were still under NDAs at this time and at that moment they weren't going to know what had happened. So I had this like anxiety if everyone's going to come up to me after this event and congratulate me and like, and it just spiraled and it was just a lot in that moment to deal with.

Yaz:

Yeah, it would. It would be so much Well done for getting through it, though Like that would be so hard to deal with, like because you don't know. You don't know until you're like in the scene and you can't like predict how you're going to feel.

Sabrina:

No, and you know, there was five or six days, I can't remember exactly, but there was a few days in between the wedding episodes. And so all of those people in that room, everyone the next day when the show aired, for five, six days, I was so aware Everyone was going to be like this is amazing. They worked, they got married.

Ilmz:

I was really shocked as well at the reunion episode, because I did not see that coming.

Sabrina:

No, it was shocking for most and I think you know people came on the journey with us, so they were hurt as well and I can understand that. But for me I was because it's my real life. So I actually just took myself to the Dutch GP in between just so I could be off my phone and be out of it, because I was like I don't have the strength in this moment to deal with this right now. So it's crazy to then fast forward a year and I'm really excited to be at the event tonight and see everyone and I just feel like I'm in a very different place in my life. What was the first thing?

Ilmz:

you did after your last breakup that helped you with your healing Booked a solo trip.

Sabrina:

That's always going to be my go-to. So I went to LA for just over three weeks and for me that was important because there was so much noise. So this actually happened before the show came out because obviously we'd broken up. So I had the anticipatory anxiety of the show coming out and everyone's opinion of it. I had the anticipatory grief for the life that I had to mourn because it's of what I had and I couldn't talk about it. So I escaped to LA and I used it as a time to connect with myself, shut out all kind of outside noise from friends and family, and just spend time on my own and healing, and whether that was having fun in Universal Studios on my own or spending the day crying in bed in my hotel, I just kind of allowed myself to feel what I needed to feel and work through it in those few weeks.

Yaz:

How did you feel like extra lonely? Because you know, when you go through a breakup, if you're sat in a hotel room or something like for some people, I feel like you would feel even more isolated.

Sabrina:

I kind of sometimes shut down when I'm feeling really upset or highly emotional. So I kind of feel like I need that time to reconnect, so I can process it, so that I am in a position to talk about it my last bad breakup before the show. I also then went to LA and spent some time there on my own and then I went solo traveling around Galapagos Islands and Hawaii and Ecuador and the rainforest, and for me, traveling heals my soul. But for some reason I don't know what it is I always, always feel called to LA when I've had a heartbreak that's where I'm going my night car break.

Sabrina:

Now I'm like okay and it's so beautiful and like one of my really, really good friends, like close friends. Now I met on that trip in LA randomly in a bar, like we're so close and like I wouldn't have met her if I hadn't have went and done that. And I met some other great people on that trip and there was no judgment, because no one's saying to you okay, you haven't left your hotel room in two days, come on, do you know? Like I just did what I needed to do in that time.

Ilmz:

That's so powerful to be able to just choose yourself, prioritize yourself and your healing, as opposed to letting yeah, the outside noise come in.

Sabrina:

Yeah and I mean who doesn't want to be in a gorgeous hotel and a stunning pool with nice food like that?

Yaz:

always LA as well everyone's like fit looking as well you're like, and it was.

Sabrina:

Oscar season, so it was just people everywhere hang on let's stop this for a sec.

Yaz:

Subscribe and follow the breakup diet. You don't want to miss another episode are you someone that, like when you go through a breakup, do you like to like meet other people or do you like to try to like as in I'm talking more in a relationship kind of setting, or do you process? And then, how do you know it's time like that, you're ready.

Sabrina:

That's a really great question. So I haven't actually dated anyone since the show and the breakdown of my marriage, but for me I think I'm really about healing and like I'm a big advocate for therapy and I think that's been something that's been really, really helpful and important in my life at different stages of my life, not just in breakups, but for me. I think I know when I'm ready is when I'm happy, because it's not someone else's job to make you happy.

Sabrina:

Like you have to do that on your own and if you put that pressure on someone else, the relationship is not going to succeed. And I also think, when I'm at a position where I'm not looking for someone to fill a void, like I want someone who's going to come into my life, like I can't think of anything worse in the world than someone being like you're my whole world, like I don't want that, like that terrifies me. I want to be part of your world. I don't want to be all of it. You want to complement each other.

Ilmz:

You want to be a partnership, not a whole.

Sabrina:

You know I don't want a father figure slash a boyfriend all in one, if that makes sense. Exactly. You should add value to each other's life. Yeah, and I feel like when you're at that point where you're not trying to fill a void, when you're so happy on your own, you're confident, your life is what you want it to be, then I feel like you're in a position to to let someone else in.

Ilmz:

I love that because I feel like that's the stage where I'm on. So I've done all the therapy, the healing, I've found the happiness and the home within me, if that makes sense, but I'm still not ready to introduce someone into my life yet do you feel that?

Sabrina:

yeah, it's a catch-22, right, it's like a self-sabotage thing. I mean, I feel like I am at the point now where I could date again, but I think I'm worried about dating again because of people's intentions and stuff.

Ilmz:

I feel like with someone like you have to be so careful.

Yaz:

Yeah, yeah, especially going on like a reality tv show and like being in the public eye.

Sabrina:

There's, like you, there's so many people that are just like clout chasers basically and it is difficult, but I feel like I get you, you want to protect your peace, but it's high risk, high reward, right, yeah, until. And I think it's understanding boundaries and setting those boundaries in place so that if you are dating, like you know what you're comfortable with and when you're willing, like how much you're willing to give to someone, because it's scary.

Ilmz:

It is scary, especially when you are so happy I'm like you work so hard to achieve the happiness and the confidence because it's like it's a job that you've done from the ground up, like other people can only help you so much if that makes sense, like I love my therapist and everything, but at the end of the day, like I had to practice what she preached, of course yeah, yeah, you have to put in the work, yeah is it also kind of hard when you're single for like a while?

Sabrina:

it's really hard to break routine and I love my own space. Right, I love my own space and because I travel so much like I love when I come back that I'm like in my space, in my apartment I have an empty, clean apartment.

Ilmz:

Yeah, emphasize on clean, just just how you want it.

Sabrina:

Yeah, do you not find that when you've put in all of that work and, as you said, you've taken those steps, do you not find you're a lot less tolerant of how people have treated?

Ilmz:

you. In the past, my standards have only gotten higher as I've gotten older. I had the theory that, oh, if I'm going to be older, I'm going to just be a bit more easier because I'm old. Now I'm in my 30s.

Sabrina:

But no, now I'm like I cannot repeat the same patterns ever. It's such a failure and a disservice to myself, I know, but it's hard. Sometimes we can find ourselves, you know, it's easiest especially because when you think about dating, people are putting forward their best version of themselves. We always do that so you could meet someone and get on really, really well, and then you're not going to know their feelings, their intentions, until down the line. Yeah, um, so it can happen by accident, without even realizing yeah, I think it's the case of not being too hard on yourself either.

Ilmz:

Exactly, I think that's the thing where you have to let go of control.

Sabrina:

You can't control other people's actions, unfortunately which is really hard, and I think one of the biggest lessons I learned was trust your intuition. If your intuition is telling you something, get out of that situation and ask questions later Like listen first, act second because there's a reason.

Yaz:

But would you say that even at the very start, for example I'm thinking about it for myself, I don't know if anybody else would feel like this but say you had had a bad relationship before?

Sabrina:

How do you know that it's your intuition and it's not a trigger from past trauma, from a relationship? Well, I think that's where therapy really helps.

Sabrina:

I mean, if you know understanding your triggers yeah, understanding what it is that could upset you in that moment. Or is it? Is it actually the person, is it the situation, or is it something that's happened to you in the past? And I think it's really important to not punish someone for someone else's mistakes. Yeah, so I feel like you have to have that clean slate with someone and and give them the benefit of the doubt. Like it's hard, like dating is it's difficult. That's why I did the show. It's really. I was in a relationship for 10 years. Why, yeah? And when I we met when we were young, we grew up together and we just grew apart. Like Like he's an amazing guy, he just was not my guy. And like I came out into this world of apps that hadn't existed and I just felt like people were dating for attention as opposed to with intention and the swipe culture.

Ilmz:

Everyone seems very disposable, if that makes sense, like you're easily replaceable because they can find another version of you, maybe a better version of you, on Instagram on this, that app, yeah or like you're even on the app and you might be at the top one day, but then there's like 10 times other matches that have come in.

Yaz:

You're down the bottom and they've forgotten you. You're like bitch, put me back at the top. I'm still here. I need to be like pin.

Ilmz:

Yeah, pin me up the top and you gotta pay for more, for a better selection of people as well. Why do you? Yeah, they, they keep, they keep the hobbies if you don't pay.

Yaz:

Yeah wow, yeah, okay, yeah, it's just premium subscriptions everywhere truly so.

Sabrina:

That just wasn't for me. So that's why I did the show, because I was like I need a little bit of help. You've experienced this like having to have that conversation about being divorced. Oh, my god, you know that's, you know that's not easy either that must be scary to bring up at the start.

Ilmz:

Actually no, well, when do you bring it up?

Sabrina:

mine's on my dating app buyer, just get it out of the way so I don't have, I don't, I'm not gonna, I don't think I see it. I probably will have to do the apps because, realistically, how do you meet people these days? I feel like the art of conversation in dead they'll just stare at you from far.

Yaz:

The men will stare at you from far, but they won't approach you yeah, what I've noticed is that women are making the moves really like as in it's either they're at the bar, you'll see, like a guy staring at you, and then the girl almost has to like, be, basically like yeah, and it's like which do you know what?

Sabrina:

I don't know call me old-fashioned, but I, I want a man who's going to approach me, say, like I want a man who's gonna want something for me. That's really, really important is someone who can be um, quite driven and direct and can take control and charge of a situation. I think because with work I'm constantly having to be the boss essentially, I don't want to have to think about where we're going on holiday. I want, I don't want to have to like think about what we have to do next week, like I want someone who's going to be like be ready at 8 pm. We're going on a date like is that so hard? Like why is that so difficult? That's all we want. Yeah, initiative like green flag yeah, if you're just gonna like literally just tell me a time, a place and I'll send you the details, yeah, perfect. But this generation, I feel like that's that's lost, it's completely lost.

Yaz:

It's really sad. That's why it's rare. It's so sad that it's rare because every I'm pretty sure 99% of females like would like that. You know that like a man that's like wants to do that and be like this and this and this. You know we are simple creatures, truly like just plan a date, guys.

Sabrina:

That doesn't mean that I won't plan a date and I won't do date nights and stuff. I feel like I'm quite I love to do that anyway, like that's kind of probably one of my love languages that's the thing.

Yaz:

What we want is stuff that we would do anyway, yeah so you went on the show because you had a breakup before. Was there any part of you that was like worried with, like putting your faith into, like getting married and like the whole experiment?

Ilmz:

that it starts essentially being personality based yeah and also yeah.

Yaz:

What if you got through it, like, and you fell in love with the guy in the pod and then you see him and you're like I actually really. I know that sounds really shallow, but like I'm just not attracted to you and that?

Sabrina:

happens. That does happen with some of the couples. Like you don't see everyone who gets engaged, you don't.

Yaz:

You don't see everyone's story, unfortunately, um because that that I could imagine that that feeling would be. You would be so disappointed, which sounds really horrible. But you would like imagine you've built up this whole fantasy, even like what you think of what he's gonna look like, and then, if you didn't like him, like it.

Sabrina:

But but that's the risk, isn't it? Yeah, and I guess that's for me.

Sabrina:

That was what was why I wanted to do the show, because I didn't like the super, like how superficial dating apps were and I found even myself being superficial, like I was going on and I was like first thing I was checking was, okay, first photo's, hot, um, how tall is he? How tall is he? I'm five foot one. I have no right to be going to check if the guy's over six foot, but that's what I was doing, like I'm like like tall guys who need therapy is my type to take, and I was literally going on and being like okay, are you over six foot? No, like who like? And that's why I feel like I don't want to get back on to apps, because I feel like it doesn't make me a nice person, like. I feel like I don't like that. I'm being superficial. So I actually really loved that that was taken out of it and I was having the opportunity to fall in love with someone's heart, mind and soul.

Ilmz:

So obviously you said that after filming, after the whole process was over, you kind of went through a journey with your mental health. What was the one thing that you did was the biggest thing that helped with your self-improvement and confidence practicing gratitude, without a doubt, daily gratitude, like.

Sabrina:

I cannot tell you how much that like changing my mindset completely changed my life, because I realized that I was in this spiral and I was like everything's awful, everything's so bad, this is going to be so bad, this is going to be on tv, this is breakup, I'm going to be judged, I'm going to. And I was spiraling and and I was like everything's awful, everything's so bad, this is going to be so bad, this is going to be on TV, this is breakup, I'm going to be judged. And I was spiraling. And then, every day, I started practicing gratitude and I realized how much in my life I have to be grateful for, and it really taught me to decompartmentalize.

Ilmz:

Yes, oh, my gosh, you sound very similar to me.

Sabrina:

Like with my mental journey, the exact same thing as you. Yeah, gratitude decompartmentalizing and it really helps you keep things in perspective and be like okay, hang on. Yes, this is shit, this is awful, this is not good, but look at all of these blessings in my life, look at all of these wonderful things. Look at my friends, my family, I have a home. I, you know, I have all these like simple things that not everyone has the opportunity to have in their life and I I'm so grateful for it and I still practice daily gratitude every day. I love it.

Yaz:

What does that mean?

Ilmz:

exactly so you so like I do this one journal exercise to this day where I list down five good things that happened to me today and like I like read back and I'm like, oh my gosh, my life is so special, like there's so many little gems in my life, like how could I ever let one moment of sadness dictate my entire day? It's like it's a part, not a hard thing to practice, but you get used to it and then over time, this feeling just possesses you, like you're grounded. Grounded, you're grateful and you're so calm that like nothing bad will impact you for longer than like half an hour.

Sabrina:

Yeah, it's I honestly think it's one of the most important things that anyone can do. Like. I have different techniques that I do. Like I would sometimes sit down and every morning write 10 things I'm grateful for, but I won't do that every morning. I do this thing called the magic wand.

Sabrina:

So, like, there's so many people, if you think about when you're going around your day-to-day, that you that are helping you through your day, but you don't actually necessarily talk to you. So, like a bus driver, when you're just in your head, you say thank you and sprinkle some magic dust on them to put out that gratitude. So there's all these little techniques that you can do, like, even with, like, trying to condition yourself to not have negative thoughts. So, if I have negative thoughts about a situation, a person, something that's going on, I do squat. No matter where I am, I'll stop and I'll do a squat. I love that because you squat it out. So you? But it's because you don't want to look like an idiot doing a squat. But it suddenly stops you and you're like you've had negative thought, do this and you're conditioning yourself to not have those negative thoughts and not think that way, because otherwise you're like you've had negative thought.

Sabrina:

Do this and you're conditioning yourself to not have those negative thoughts and not think that way, because otherwise you're gonna have or do a dress up or do whatever.

Yaz:

It is that like drop and you know, imagine you're at the sorry, but you're at the premiere later. You're just like they just see you like doing the red coffee, and they're like me, know what she's doing but it's amazing how quickly that will like reframe your mindset.

Sabrina:

No, that's the thing.

Ilmz:

Adding, just attaching something there's that saying like reframe your mindset. No, that's the thing, are you just attaching something? There's that saying like depression can't hit a moving target. Keep your body moving. That's why, when you move your body, you feel better, because there's endorphins and everything you know. I love that. Yeah, I love that too. We're so like on the same page about this stuff. I love it. When they're going through a post-breakup slump, how do do they go from crying 24-7 to romanticizing their lives again?

Sabrina:

I really do think it comes back to gratitude and it's remembering that not every day is a good day, but there is good in every day. And it's looking for the magic. It's looking for those little glimmers and starting small, like do your hair and makeup, even if you're just going to go and get a coffee. Like, go touch grass. Literally go outside and touch grass, be in the sun, go for a walk. Just start to do little things every day and take count of those little moments that bring you joy.

Yaz:

Gradually again, your mindset will just change and it's all about just training and like practicing those habits every day for it to eventually just become your own it's actually crazy when you think about like a breakup and how intensely you feel in those moments and then with time, with all these like techniques, how it slowly fades and looking back you're like how like I get why I was sad, but how was I like that impacted by yeah, yeah.

Sabrina:

And I think meditation. I know meditation is not for everyone, but I find that meditation is a really great way to help you slow down and like calm your nervous system and kind of ground yourself again. And I think that's really helpful as well because sometimes especially if anyone who suffers from anxiety they'll know like that, when your heart races and you start to stress, like just breath, work and meditation.

Ilmz:

Oh, three deep breaths in one go. That is the best way to get yourself grounded again. That's my favorite exercise to do.

Sabrina:

I like doing the four, four, four, which one's that, where you breathe in for four, hold for four, release for four, and I just feel like that really kind of calms me. Can we do that? Yeah, we can do it. Do you want to have a little?

Yaz:

give us a little camo. Yes, yeah, yeah, we're going. No, I can't. So you're in a really good spot right now with, like, your career and everything going on. You know you're ready for love. What is something that we can expect to see from you in your career or, you know, taking forward into this year?

Sabrina:

Yeah, there's so much of my career that I don't talk about or share online. So I have my own marketing consultancy business which I'm really proud of and I'm continuing to grow, and I've just put on a really amazing new team member who's helping with the business development side and I want to actually possibly maybe do more work in London and stuff with that. I have a couple of fun projects that I'm working on that I can't wait to share with you all. I obviously can't get into at the minute. Do you know? It's so funny because I'm like in three weeks time, so I kind of just go with the flow and I'm very lucky that I can just work kind of remotely from anywhere.

Sabrina:

But lots more travel, as much travel as I can, more f1 races, any solo trips, solo trips. Do you know what I'm actually looking at doing? Organizing a little trip for the girlies that would normally solo travel to try and bring them together. I love bringing women together because one of the great things about solo traveling is the people that you meet along the way. So it's kind of takes out the middleman and brings everyone together. But I went to Antarctica in December. What? Yeah, it was my seventh continent, so I did a solo trip to Antarctica.

Ilmz:

Where was like your mind at? Because I feel like if I was at such a I don't know isolated part of the world, I would just be like, oh my gosh, like in a very deep reflecting zone, if that makes sense.

Sabrina:

Do you know what? You're so busy? We were doing two expeditions a day. You're on the go, you're either at sea, you're on land, you're hiking, like I cannot. It was one of the best experiences of my life and I met some of the most amazing people, but it was my last continent and it was the I've now done. The middle of the world like so zero degree longitude, zero degree latitude and.

Sabrina:

I've done the South Pole so I think I would love to do like a little solo trip to the North Pole and the Arctic Circle. Oh my God, exciting yeah. So I think that's next maybe.

Ilmz:

Shall we play a game of this or that?

Yaz:

Sabrina Vittoria edition this or that Sabrina Vittoria edition. Yes, let's do it. Post breakup escape to a five-star resort or a solo trip backpacking.

Sabrina:

So this is. I would have to combine them because it would be solo, but like I, like I'm not back, like I bought two suitcases to Antarctica, like I'm not, like I'm not backpacking anywhere, like I just do not have that in me. Um, I love outfit planning, I like having my, um, my choice, but so I think it would be, it's always going to be, I think, post breakup for me, I love having that solo moment to like go on heel and and kind of rediscover who I am outside of a relationship.

Ilmz:

So definitely that, but somewhere that's a bit bougie so the luxury resort, a luxury resort on my own, okay. So moving on mood, are we gonna see you front row at london fashion week or are we gonna see you track side at the gp?

Sabrina:

gp like I. Literally any formula one fans will get that that moment that you step on track and you hear the engines and like the vibrations, and like it literally goes through your soul like it's the most, and this, oh, I just like, I just don't think there's a better feeling in the world than being at a GP.

Yaz:

A revenge outfit power suit that screams CEO energy, or slinky dress that turns heads.

Sabrina:

So I actually love a power suit moment. But I do that a lot for work, so like if I'm meeting clients, if I'm normally in a power suit, so I feel like slinky dress yeah, definitely post-breakup.

Ilmz:

Yeah, slinky dress, you're gonna see how good and healthy I look. Yeah, the last one, the healing trip Paris, because it's romantic, and it doesn't have to be romantic because there's guys around, it could be romantic for yourself.

Sabrina:

Or Monaco for the thrill so this is really difficult because they're two of my favorite cities, I okay, I think Paris in winter, monaco in spring, summer, I agree. So for a winter breakup, like autumn winter, go to Paris like there's something really really beautiful, like I think Paris comes alive at night, yeah, so like having that from early on in the evenings, that dusk, and like going down the river, sand, drinking champagne while the sun's setting, like it's so beautiful and then just everything lit up and the sun is. Oh, I love it. But monaco in the summer, um, like spring, summertime is it's like you can't beat some sun and the beach and absolutely, and I feel like everyone's just attractive in monaco.

Ilmz:

It's nice to just be around hot people, even if you're not getting with them, like it's just they're all old.

Yaz:

I live there, so like I can say that, like they're all old men. I went to school there like, yeah, there's a lot of old men like Instagram girls so for somebody struggling to go like going through a breakup and like get to a space where, like yourself, like in a really good headspace, what's one piece of advice you might have heard from somebody else, or something that really stuck with you, that helped you, like get into the place that you are now?

Sabrina:

there's not just one piece of advice, like healing's not linear grief, like when we grieve anything, whether it's a breakup, a friendship, you know, a a death, like there's so many phases to it, so many phases. And also I feel like it catches you off guard, like when I went to LA and I was obviously so excited for that trip and I was really buzzing to just get away and blah, blah, blah. And then I was on the plane and I was having some lovely red wine, I was watching Magic Mike and I was just having a great time and then, just out of nowhere, like I'm literally watching Magic Mike there's nothing emotional about that movie and I just had this like overwhelming, like moment of like grief, in the sense that I was like because, like I said before, like I'm, I feel like I'm drawn to LA when I, when I have a bad breakup. So I was like, oh, I'm in the exact same position. I was a few years ago and that wasn't true. It wasn't.

Sabrina:

You know, they're not comparable, but I felt like I was repeating, like, like history had almost repeated himself, and I literally had this full breakdown on the middle, in the middle of the plane, like with my red mind crying, my eyes like with magic gone, like hysterically to crying, like hysterically crying, and it's like moments like that, when grief hit you. I feel like you have to allow yourself to feel. Yeah, and I think that's probably the one bit like allow yourself to feel whatever is in the moment. Healing is not linear. We all heal differently. What works for someone else is not going to work for you. So just allow yourself to feel, listen to your body and what you need in that moment, and if you're crying in public, it's fine. We've all been there.

Ilmz:

We've all been there. It's like better out than in. No, exactly, it's better for the long-term development of you to just let it all out as opposed to holding it in, delaying the progress anymore. If you could tell our listeners going through a heartbreak a three-day breakup toolkit, what would it?

Sabrina:

be okay. So day one we're doing self-care, so we're having some lush bath bombs, we're sent a candle, a korean face mask, we're having a bath. We're having an ipod with he's just not that into you on it because we're not going to be delusional, we're going to keep ourselves grounded and then, like some nice pjs, our dressing gown and we're just going to have a real like look after yourself moment. Day two you're getting the akator series because it's the perfect distraction and, without giving anything away for anyone who hasn't read it, when you meet the bat boys, you're going to be so embarrassed that you were even crying over this man and you're just going to be like, yeah, what was I ever thinking? Feel like some snacks, throw them in there.

Sabrina:

And we're just going to do like we're going to read, we're going to escape and we're we're going to be distracted. And then, day three a really nice, like cute little gym set and a Pilates pass, because Pilates for me was like, so essential just for headspace. When you go to the gym, you can be on your phone. When you're on a reformer pilates machine, you can like you're not on your phone, so it's good for mental health, like as well, like to just have that r guaranteed away from your phone where you're concentrating, and then we're going to be the hot x.

Yaz:

So pilates is going to help with that too didn't you always say you can't be sad if you have abs or something? Exactly, yeah, and it's like you can't be sad if you have abs. I love that here.

Ilmz:

That's a good motto, yeah sabrina, thank you so much for your time. I feel like there's so much that I can take away from this oh, thank you, really appreciate it you.

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Ilma Shahrene

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Yasmin Misner

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Sabrina Vittoria

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